I am going to handle DH’s passive aggressive face pulling, general irritability and dismissive way he speaks to me in what I found to be a very effective way.
We have been married 55 years, never had a row because of my upbringing. However I have found that as we have got older he treats me with less respect. Not all the time but enough for me to need him to stop.
I either say ‘Perhaps you could rephrase that using a different tone?”with an uplift on the word tone
or I say do you mean, repeat what he said but in a normal no-irritated voice
the final one, ‘maybe you want to say what you want rather than pulling a face.
At first he would say something as well as display irritation or sighing. I used it so often that he began to realise just what a habit he had got into.