Marriages that healed after affair - positive stories only!!!

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Hi there,

I'm looking for positive stories ONLY.

If you are someone who has had an affair, or had their partner have an affair, I'd like to hear from you if you managed to work through it and if you were ever happy again.

Again, positive stories only please. And I'm sorry if it's painful to talk about. It's very much appreciated though. This is for a person close to me who is in a very bad place and I want to provide some comfort to.

Thank you so much xxxx

Bumping. Must be some out there? Xxx

Shall bump
Again xx

Not sure you’ll get many takers by dictating people can only contribute positivity and rainbows, OP.

Its hard, the marriage can be improved. The person who had the affair needs to work very hard.

Silence is sometimes an answer in itself.

From both MN and lived experience, the vast, vast majority of relationships do not seem to survive in any healthy way. Maybe your close person might benefit more from support in a generic sense, rather than you attempting to show them positive outcomes after infidelity, which you are unlikely to find. I can see your thought process but it just isn't the reality in probably 'most' cases.

I have a friend who stayed married after her ‘D’H had an affair. She’s very unhappy though, it’s destroyed her mental health.

I don’t think you’re going to find the positive echo chamber you hope for, as this is the closest to a ‘success’ story I’ve heard

Nope

It can work temporarily, patching over the great big scar. That’s the most positive I can be about it.

Good luck with that.

I know a couple who are happier post-affair.

The thing is the marriage was pretty shitty for the person who had the affair and their spouse refused to acknowledge that and address those issues despite repeated requests to do so.

It took the affair and potential end of the marriage for that spouse to realise what they were about to lose and to make some significant changes to their contribution to the relationship along with the recognition that the affair was attributable to their spouse being desperately unhappy.

They attended counselling together and individually and both were very committed at that point to making the marriage work in a version 2 of the relationship that was more equitable and supportive.

Ten years on they are very happy together.

This.

The only positive stories I can think of are where the couple made a clean break, then whichever party/ies worked on themselves started a new relationship which actually made them happy.

My exH had an affair.

We are not married now.

I’m very happy with my life.

is that positive enough?

My friend had an affair and he's still happy with his affair partner three years on.

My friend had an affair and he's still happy with his affair partner three years on.

My friend had an affair and he's still happy with his affair partner three years on.

My friend had an affair and he's still happy with his affair partner three years on.

My friend had an affair and he's still happy with his affair partner three years on.