Stay at home parents - how often do you get a break?

[notenoughteaintheworld]

if you’re a stay at home parent, how often do you get:

1. A sleep in
2. A break from your kids during the day
3. To go outside the house without your kids

Do you have to ask? Or is it just done/expected of your partner? In comparison, how often does your partner get these things?

The issue I had, was DH not recognising he got a break away from the children every day by going to work.

He couldn't seem to fathom that just because he was working in an office, it still counted as daily 8hrs of time away from screaming 3 month old twins. Peace, adult conversation, having a cup of tea at his leisure, no relentless screaming, a lunch break. He insisted that he was having just as tough a time just going to his job.

I didn't get an hour's break until they started nursery age 2 and that's no exaggeration. Those 2 years nearly broke me, with his attitude like he was working so hard while I sat on my arse in his eyes. Now I have a little part time job and he sometimes has to pick them up from school, and he admits the two hours he has them alone before I come home are far harder than two hours of work. Texts me at my job continuously asking how long I'm going to be. Apparently they are "tired" and "loud" and "not behaving." Well no shit Sherlock. And they are exponentially easier now, aged 5.

I saw him in a totally different light from then. Ignorant, uncaring, selfish. Didn't matter that I was in pieces for two years. But it matters now that he has to do two hours.

Don't let that be you x