If you had the year from hell...

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How are you planning to spend NYE?

I have seriously been knocked on my ass by 2024 and while I'm very aware 2025 will probably bring worse before it gets better, I also usually am of the mindset that it's good to ring the new year in with something vaguely positive so you're starting it on a good foot (or as good as you can within your situation). But I'm really struggling to think of what to do that's both low pressure and is still nice. It'll just be me and ds is little so he'll be in bed early (hopefully!) What are others doing and I'm sending you all wishes for a better 2025.

2024 started with me falling down the stairs, shattering my shoulder, destroying my wrist, getting diagnosed with osteoporosis, mashing my mental health, and this month finding a tumor on my kidney. 2025 will be more physiotherapy, more surgery and more jabbing me with sodding needles.

We'll be staying up late playing Bingolotto (weird Swedish televised bingo), have a blow out Indian takeaway, and then wander into the town centre for the kommun's fireworks. While trying to ignore the fact that my entire arm is fucking killing me.

Tinting my brows, eating something tasty and reading a book.

I lost my teenage DS to cancer this year. I am home alone for NYE and plan an early night.

Sorry for your loss@Downtoyou

@Downtoyou so sorry for your loss. Life is so cruel.

I will be celebrating at a kids party 3-5pm. Likely to have an early night too.

2024 has been a bad year for a lot of people. We have had lots of illness in the family. So I hope 2025 is a bit easier. @Downtoyou I am so sorry to hear about your DS. I hope 2025 is as easy as possible for you.

I have too OP, since summer of 2023 actually. My mental health has suffered so badly and I think I will always carry that with me.

But I'm also trying to enjoy my current setup and am learning to be patient with myself. I'm very keen to immediately return to my previous mindset, where I was so grateful for every little thing, content and just genuinely happy inside, despite the normal ups and downs of life. I've come to understand that I don't and can't immediately shake loose the pressure that has built up on my shoulders over the last 18 months.

A line from Billie Eilish's song from Barbie has really stuck with me:

/Think I forgot, how to be happy
Something I'm not, but something I can be,
Something I wait for,
Something I'm made for.

It has really gotten me through; remembering that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

All that being said, haha, I'm spending mine being utterly relaxed. I'll stay in pajamas all day, do my roots and have a nice bath. I'll play games with my family, order a takeaway, and drink wine with my partner. Feeling genuinely relaxed and at peace is what I have been missing from my life, so it seems the perfect way to bring in the new year, starting as I mean to go on.

I really hope you have the best time, I'm wishing you strength and solidarity, keep your head up and your heart strong ❤️

I'm so so sorry @Downtoyou, I hope you can treat yourself with the kindness you deserve x

So sorry for your loss @Downtoyou

2024 has been completely shite for me, lost my DSis completely unexpectedly in her early 50s earlier this year. On top of that had DS with depression and needing lots of support, DPs also grieving and needing lots of support plus DBIL and their DC. Other things have also been crap but don’t compare. It has just felt like a year with one thing on top of another.

As for NYE, we are having a couple of close friends round for tea and mince pies tomorrow afternoon then a couple round for a casual and calm dinner, will watch fireworks on TV with a glass of champagne then head to bed. Couldn’t face a party but it will be nice to be with good friends.

2025 has got to be better, grief is obviously still there but we are learning to live with it and the awful days are less often than they were. DS is coming out of his lowest time and things look more positive for him.
We have to believe that 2025 will be better.

Lost my gran (ok that was 2023), moved country, had to move house 3 times before settling, family issues, no stability, grief, feeling wretched.
Had counseling. Was doing really well.
Then the ONE person who had always been there for me, no matter how unreasonable I was being, turned on me and betrayed me in the worst way she could in November. Trust is shattered.

I will be spending it by the sea with my labrador.

I lost a baby in the second trimester, had a different dream shattered, and it looks like I’m currently in the process of being faded out by my best friend, too. Apparently I asked her for too much this year.

DH and I will get a takeaway and go to bed early.

Im so sorry for your loss @Downtoyou

Sorry for your losses @Downtoyou @DSisNolongerhere @Nextyearhopes @Retrospeaker sending you all lots of strength.

Thanks for all the lovely ideas so far.

I spent 2024 just like 2023, trying to get over botched surgery and helping DH manage his cancer.

2025 is starting with him having radiotherapy and I have had a chest infection since October that even Doxycycline is struggling to best.

I'm tired of the fights we are undergoing and not looking forward to it all at all really

I’m having chemo having had 3 surgeries to try to clear the cancer. I will be knocked out on drugs and hope I will sleep through it all. Dad died this summer too. It’s been a horrible year.

wishing everyone a better 2025.

I’m so sorry for your loss @Downtoyou x

I did a manifesting vision board recently why don't you make one

This is so sad I'm so sorry 💔💔💔

2023 was truly the shittest and hardest year I had ever had, so we celebrated the end of it really expecting that 2024 would be much better. In many ways it has been worse, and so we will go into 2025 just seeing the back of another rubbish year, and being grateful for the positives in our life, ie: family. Having a very low-key evening in with the kids, as home with them is our happy place.

I think the only thing to be done at the end of a terrible year is to be thankful it's over and hope for better days ahead. And to remind ourselves that without great sorrow we can't experience great joy. Sorry for all those who've had and are having a crappy time. 2025 is a lovely round number, I like the look of it hence my username. I'm wishing good things for all of you.

I've not had a bad year myself but there has been a lot of chaos in my brother's life this year that has caused worry and anger in the family. He is dj'ing a new years eve party anyway in answer to the question.

Had cancer this year as well as some other issues, I will be just going to bed, I feel old before my time, but I do love a lie in bed with an iPad these days, so will genuinely enjoy it, just what to watch is the question.

I can't even imagine how you feel right now. I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer this year and two months after my DH had a life threatening diagnosis. We are both still here for now, and hoping this year will be a better one. My treatment is almost over bar some cosmetic surgery and my husband is improving currently we are filled with fuck this last year sentiment but honestly no words can express how sorry I am that you are facing this.

Shit year here too. We are staying in, having a normal night. Will probably be in bed at 10pm.
Every time we make an effort to arrange or plan something it goes wrong or someone's ill. We've given up trying for a while.

I’ll be in bed ready to kick start the new year.

So sorry to read this.