Have you managed to get through Christmas without a row?

[NovemberMorn]

Reading so many of the threads on here, peace on earth isn't always easy to come by.😒

No rows here, but I am low contact with ALL in laws.

We don't even drink. Although, i wish I did sometimes.

Not a row but dp tried some of my baking and was critical. I said it would have been nice if he had said something positive first and then suggested how it could have been improved.

He sulked, made it about him with his usual moan about how he can never say anything right and he should stop saying anything.

Twat!

I think if you are in a troubled relationship or don’t like each other it’s a time where people are shoved together for extended periods of time and that is an issue. It’s not the fact that it’s Christmas that turns a fab relationship into a poor one.

or it could just be a silly argument that’s over in two minutes and you laugh at how silly you’ve been. I suppose it depends on definition of a row.

No rows here but we have nice family and friends and everyone likes everyone else.

No rows here. In nearly 20 years of marriage I think we have had 2 or 3 rows in total. I couldn't live with someone I rowed with regularly.

Only a bit of a tiff over making each other tea 😂

None here either over 3 days with DS at home, two days of another DS at home and another day of all DC’s/step DC’s and DGC’s, 15 in all!
There were a couple of comments taken out of context ( I was joking with my youngest DS that he was my hope for DGC’s - he knows how we tease each other, but one of the other DC’s partners picked me up for putting pressure on him, when her mum had given up with her and accepted that she doesn't want children and will never have DGC’s). Fine, views accepted from two different family backgrounds and relationships.

We communicate well and respect each others views, including a gentle challenge. We accept that everyone is entitled to their own opinions based on their past experiences.

Everyone celebrates Christmas differently, we all have different expectations…different not wrong.

Never had a tow at Christmas in my life, and never had a row with dh ever (5 years in) arguing isn't inevitable

I don't mind a good row, it clears the air.
I have been married a lot longer than you, and for us, it works....maybe I have a Latin temperament.🤔

With ADHD/autistic/ODD DS11, yes.

DH and everyone else, no. All very happy and harmonious

How far away?

Oh it's all kicking off here today. DH wants to take down the decorations and myself and the DC are disgusted with him.

Sounds amazing. I lost my dad last year, and dm is very overbearing. I agree with cutting toxicity out of your life, they say life is too short, well it is too short for drama too

I'm always suspicious of couples that never argue 🤔 I'm 20 years in though, we also have small kids. It is more bickering, and who is the most tired (which we're working on). 😮 I suspect when dcs are older things will be easier, they are still little.

DH and I had a row in the car yesterday. It was about certain life decisions and the fact that both of us feel nagged at by the other one! 😂

DH honestly doesn’t realize how much he nags at everyone- the whole family feels that he does though so we can’t all be wrong!

Oh I would feel like not baking for him again, how tactless! I do think sulking, can be a trait for a lot of men over a certain age unfortunately.

Amazingly yes. Ds2 has, shall we say, form for going off alarmingly, usually over something trivial(The Great Name that hummed tune debacle of 2019 springs to mind) but despite being knackered from work (retail manager) and slightly hung over it was all peace and joy.

Maybe, Husband and I do argue less as we have got older together.
A younger member of the family swears he and his girlfriend (of over 10 years) have never had one argument, yet he thinks their relationship is similar to ours.

He calls it 'roasting each other', so maybe we (husband and I) roast more than row. 😃

Haha, it's just keeping each other in check I think!

Yup - I'm single!

A ferry and 10 hour drive away 😁

No rows here, me, my dh and dd hosted 5 other family members and no one fell out or even had words

Well we got through all Christmas, New Year's Eve, and not a harsh word was spoken....and we played a lot of games and drank quite a lot of alcohol.

On this thread at least, Mumsnetters seem to be a pretty peaceful lot.
Thanks for the replies. x

@NovemberMorn in my case it is because my family are nice, and we all refuse to be guilt tripped into spending time with unpleasant people.