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Peachcis · 30/12/2024 12:44

I had an arguement nearly 10 years ago with someone who I thought was a friend. It was just that, an arguement. I wasn't annoyed with her at the time because she was always so negative and I got mad at her and told her to get a grip.

Ever since then, she had made my life hell.

She ignored my apology and then spent the past 9 years harassing me for attention. She wants me to fix our relationship as if she is owed. It's not even the relationship. It's her feelings. To this day she has behaved as if I set out to hurt her hugely. As if I killed her cat and her father. It was just an arguement that came from a period of stress, tiredness and frayed nerves. It was in the run up to Christmas and my job was not great and I was honestly tired and I was preparing for the Christmas.

She has been filled with rageful and hateful comments and revenge against me since then. Even to this day.

8 years ago I had to change my number and cut all contact because there was no reasoning with her and her anger was south of this world.

The police has only just allowed this to go on and they allowed this to happen. I went to the police 4 times and they only just wrote me off due to who she is. It's a civil offence they told me. But because we weren't dating or spouses or ex lovers there was no civil order except for an expensive injunction and I never had the means for it. The solicitor I went to at the time explained for an order we would have had to have an intimate relationship. Basically if she was expecting of mine there would be more law applied to her.

I don't respond to her and I block her every time she gets around blocks and I avoid her like the plaque. She is determined. She is still has the same broken old record. She just won't leave me alone and she is feeling entitled for me to fix her feelings. That's all her campaign is all about. To fix her broken feelings. That boat has long sailed. I tried to address her and the points she was making and I was respectful back in 2018 but she rejected it telling me go and suck co(k. At that stage for me it was over and over. The problem was her who has chosen to make a mountain out of a molehill and carry her hurt as if it's a badge of honour. Even though I never set out to hurt her. At this stage the only person hurting her is herself. It's her own thick ignorant personality. To this day she won't leave me alone.

This person is a psychopath. We grew up together but I now suspect she is psychopath. Her ego has been bruised and I will be made pay. Over and over and over again. If I did something illegal I would have the law applied to me and I would likely be done with a sentence by now but I must be made pay over and over and over again.

She doesn't have my number but she is determined and in the past year has sent me many mail and emails and contact with my employer and family and everything. All of is was to cast blame and shaming me and smearing me.

I found a profile from her online where she wrote many identifying information about me and my family and circumstances and always painting me and my family badly. There's no point going down the route of defamation because it's a financial cold shower for me because she is not rich and she does not have any assets.

To this day she writes and complains about all my wrongs even making points about me when I was a child (40+ years ago).

She even writes asking for help and her readers provide her with advice and things like...'why be friends with her...cut contact' and many more but what she is failing to mention is that we are not friends and we have 'cut contact' and the only person maintaing contact is her through her abusive communications. She will never update her readers about that. She has also failed to mention the very long list of revenges and smearing and crap that she has done.

In recent times she was sending messages to my boyfriend and he is usually good at ignoring her and he does ignore her but just after Christmas he blew a fuse with her and responded. She even wrote about how nasty he is but she never wrote the true story where she provoked him.

All of her posts about me is just writing the same thing and the same old issues from 10/20 years ago but never really asking how can she progress through this. Only just wanting her readers to agree with her.

All of this is only just fueling her. That she is right and her friend is wrong and it's only giving her licence to continue being feeling hurt and lashing out.

I am kinda tempted to call her out online on that platform? What do you think? I haven't responded to her in years. I don't reason with crazy because I can't. But this.

All of this is just breaking me. It really is. She just won't leave me alone. The police have been more than happy to allow it to continue too.

OP posts:
Eskimal · 30/12/2024 13:07

If you’ve truly blocked her on social
media you wouldn’t see her online posts.
you can ask your employer to block her email address each time she creates a new one.
if you really want to block and grey rock someone it is possible but it sounds like you don’t want to.

Peachcis · 30/12/2024 14:34

Eskimal · 30/12/2024 13:07

If you’ve truly blocked her on social
media you wouldn’t see her online posts.
you can ask your employer to block her email address each time she creates a new one.
if you really want to block and grey rock someone it is possible but it sounds like you don’t want to.

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She is blocked and I can't see her social media. It is an online forum. Not mumset. She is posting with a made up name however her writing style, words and descriptions and it's 100% her. I came across it by accident and I read a post and then I clicked on her history.

What I read made me feel sick. Because we fallen out 10 years ago and her post and hurt is still as fresh today as it was back then even though that was never my attention. Then there was the whole entire posts and writing. She left out many details. Also reading between the lines she doesn't want a conclusion to any of this. She just wants her readers to agree with her that she is right and I am wrong. She's still in the same place.

My employer has been blocking her since 2016 but she keeps making new accounts.

Blocking is only a partial solution when she is obsessed and determined.

She doesn't want a friendship with me but she just wants to make me pay, even now and fix her feelings and ego.

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username299 · 30/12/2024 14:50

Sounds like harassment to me. You could contact the National Stalking Helpline and get advice.

I'm sure you've already had this advice but build a case. Emails, text, letters etc and a diary of events.

Inform the website she posts on about her history and what she's doing. Close down your social media and block her on everything.

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Peachcis · 30/12/2024 15:01

username299 · 30/12/2024 14:50

Sounds like harassment to me. You could contact the National Stalking Helpline and get advice.

I'm sure you've already had this advice but build a case. Emails, text, letters etc and a diary of events.

Inform the website she posts on about her history and what she's doing. Close down your social media and block her on everything.

I have taken steps to close down harassment. But legally not yet. I was contacting solicitors before the Christmas but I got nowhere with the few I contacted. I haven't responded to her in years.

I reported her post and got in touch with the mods of that group but they said she wasn't breaking any rules. Would it help if I was to go higher up and contact the sites administers? Her posts and the replies they are just giving her a licence to continue where she is and keep lashing out.

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username299 · 30/12/2024 15:09

You can report her to the site admin but the best thing to do is completely ignore her. Let her post her nonsense and get on with your life.

It's difficult to give advice without the full details but I'm surprised the police haven't taken any action after ten years of this.

Legal strategies include:

Stalking protection order
Restraining order
Criminal behaviour order

That's why it's best to speak to the National Stalking Helpline and tell them everything and they can give you advice.

Eskimal · 30/12/2024 15:51

Peachcis · 30/12/2024 14:34

She is blocked and I can't see her social media. It is an online forum. Not mumset. She is posting with a made up name however her writing style, words and descriptions and it's 100% her. I came across it by accident and I read a post and then I clicked on her history.

What I read made me feel sick. Because we fallen out 10 years ago and her post and hurt is still as fresh today as it was back then even though that was never my attention. Then there was the whole entire posts and writing. She left out many details. Also reading between the lines she doesn't want a conclusion to any of this. She just wants her readers to agree with her that she is right and I am wrong. She's still in the same place.

My employer has been blocking her since 2016 but she keeps making new accounts.

Blocking is only a partial solution when she is obsessed and determined.

She doesn't want a friendship with me but she just wants to make me pay, even now and fix her feelings and ego.

So you want her to stop posting about the issue on one particular online forum?
posting online is not illegal, nor is it harassment unless she is deliberately giving away personal details that would identify you.
you are going to have to delete the forum from your history and stop looking at it. It’s that simple.

had you never found the forum you would not know she was doing this. Please stop looking at it. Solving this part of the problem is that easy.

emailing your employer about you could possibility be considered stalking or harassment. You’d need to give us more details about frequency and what she says.

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