Christmas gifts on Vinted

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I like to think I take a great deal of care and time in choosing gifts for others so I've been a bit sad to see that Christmas gifts I gave to someone are already listed on Vinted. What's your thoughts on this?
Not bother in future? Just give money instead? Do I let on that I have seen them?

I'm not feeling sorry for myself. I'm just a bit disappointed if honest. I do see there are other things I assume from other relatives too.

I would always say ‘I have the receipt available if it’s unsuitable’.
Not everywhere has gift receipts but if it’s not something you know them to love, the exact size and they already wear, not a brand they use etc then it’s only decent to offer to exchange it.

If you receive a gift that you don't want or need or if you need money more than the gift then I see no issues with listing it on Vinted. Much better than sticking it in a cupboard unused.

Buying from a wishlist might be the way forward or alternatively cash is popular for a reason.

I do understand that it's disappointing to put thought and effort into gift buying for it seemingly not to be appreciated in the way that you expected. It doesn't mean that the recipient isn't grateful though.

If there are other gifts is it possible they just really need the money ?

Really? The OP should feel bad for not choosing the correct gift? Heard it all now! They said they had put time and thought into it. It is true that it is up to the receiver to do as they please but hardly unreasonable for the OP to feel a bit deflated.

Its always a shame when a gift doesn't land the way you hoped. Given it hasn't though, what's really the best thing to happen now - they hold onto the item that they don't like, or won't use, indefinitely or that they sell it now and get something they would like with the money.
A friend bought me a ring a few years ago. It was nice but not my style at all, so I discretely exchanged it for one that was. Now I have a ring I love that to my mind that friend still got for me. That feels like the best outcome to me.

I have one in the pile to go on vinted....as its a duplicate of something its useless having two of. No point upsetting the gift giver asking for a receipt. I'll just sell and use the money to put something I need.

I’ve done this twice: once with a top which was too small, and once with a perfume that I didn’t care for. And one time I received a lipstick which didn’t suit my colouring, so I binned it—a shame, as it was an expensive brand.

Next year ask for ideas and stick to that, or agree not to do gifts. I wouldn't be giving money to a relative unless they were a teen/young adult at Uni etc in which case I'd imagine money would be preferable anyway. I don't think there's anything wrong with returning a gift that doesn't hit the mark, although that's harder to do these days than it used to be so Vinted/Ebay would be the next best option imo.

I'd be disappointed I might not have chosen gifts well but wouldn't be offended if someone sold or regifted them.

I do think other people might be upset by it so haven't done it myself. Which is why I have a load of stuff around my house I can't or won't use. 🙄

Another idea would be to give vouchers for an experience rather than a physical object. Last year we were given theatre vouchers, which was great as we went to see a show. Having said that, I’ve seen a few people on here saying they got vouchers for a spa day, which seems to be a love or hate thing, so it would still need to be something they’d like to use.

Well, it was meant tongue in cheek having just read another thread from the recipient’s perspective. Apologies, I realise it didn’t come across that way.

But you must have read one of two of the dozens of threads every year with an OP complaining about the “not to their taste” gift that their DH/DD/DM/MIL bought them and therefore how they don’t feel “seen”.

The reality is, don’t give overly personalised gifts unless you are sure the recipient will want it. If you go out on a limb with an unusual gift, don’t be too disappointed if the recipient gets rid of it. You’re supposed to be giving a gift, not an obligation.

Next year I will buy from a list - thanks for all the thoughts.