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Rock Choir

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XenoBitch · 29/12/2024 21:41

My DP is looking to have taster session with Rock Choir in the new year. He loves to sing, and he is very socially isolated, so it would be good for him.

Is anyone here a member, and how do you find it? Do many men go? All the ads I see seem to be full of women.

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teaandtoastwithmarmite · 29/12/2024 21:42

I go to one and there are quite a few men there. It’s definitely not women only. It’s very friendly and good fun.

ApolloandDaphne · 29/12/2024 21:44

I go to one. I love it and have made loads of friends. We have men in our choirs and could always do with more. Encourage him to go to the taster session. I'm sure he will enjoy it.

Doggielove · 29/12/2024 21:48

I’m In one! We only have few men that usually sing lower parts. It’s mostly women - so in my choir maybe 1-2 men for every 30 women

that said everyone gets on and the men are very much included

Doggielove · 29/12/2024 21:49

XenoBitch · 29/12/2024 21:41

My DP is looking to have taster session with Rock Choir in the new year. He loves to sing, and he is very socially isolated, so it would be good for him.

Is anyone here a member, and how do you find it? Do many men go? All the ads I see seem to be full of women.

We are learning “Every breathe you take” by police in January!

FuckItItsFine · 29/12/2024 21:49

My aunt and uncle go regularly and I’ve been to some of the one day sessions. It’s great fun! I’d say there were only a few men but they were completely welcomed.

Soonenough · 29/12/2024 21:54

Are deliberately looking for an ick factor in your marriage 😛

Proteinbananas · 29/12/2024 22:18

Soonenough · 29/12/2024 21:54

Are deliberately looking for an ick factor in your marriage 😛

Grow up 🙄

Have you been able to find them on Facebook? My local group are a mixed bunch with quite a few men.

KindLemur · 29/12/2024 22:20

IMO he’d be better of finding a decent male voice choir

HelloMyNameIsElderSmurf · 29/12/2024 22:29

I'm a choir veteran (not rock choir). Choirs are brilliant for everyone and good on him for wanting to give it a go. I'd encourage him to look for one with as many men as possible - the choir I'm with right now only has a couple of men, which means sometimes a man turns up for a taster session and is the only man there, which can be very off-putting. he'll have a better time if there's a bigger group to sing with, unless he's already a pretty confident singer.

ViolinsPlayGentlyOn · 29/12/2024 22:50

Is he into music generally or does he just like to sing? I was a member for a while (and there were quite a few men, although mainly dragged along by their wives) but I got fed up with the lack of actual musical knowledge / ability - it’s basically group karaoke. Which may of course be what he wants!

Doggielove · 30/12/2024 09:01

ViolinsPlayGentlyOn · 29/12/2024 22:50

Is he into music generally or does he just like to sing? I was a member for a while (and there were quite a few men, although mainly dragged along by their wives) but I got fed up with the lack of actual musical knowledge / ability - it’s basically group karaoke. Which may of course be what he wants!

That’s such a good analogy “group karaoke” - that said for me I find you can develop your own singing without pressure so that’s nice, and you do get to develop harmony singing by virtue of singing in close proximity to others.

OP an important thing to know is you’re taught by ear at rock choir and there is no reading music which is a plus and a minus for me. It’s what makes it so accessible but also limited.

best thing is to give it a go…that’s why tastes sessions are so handy but you only get one before you need to join

there are also lots of perks like online resources / catch up tutorials and vocal yoga classes each each week, and even online sessions in case you can’t attend

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 30/12/2024 09:27

I don’t agree it’s group karaoke. We learn the songs from the leader playing the piano and they all have some kind of musical background. And the men in my choir are not ‘dragged along by their wives’.

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XenoBitch · 30/12/2024 21:44

Thank you all for the responses.
He is not musically trained, and has no interest in being so, so the "group karaoke" appeals more to him than going to a dedicated singy choir.
He literally just wants to blast out some tunes and meet new people.

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Bluelagoondrmr · 30/12/2024 21:51

If he wants to meet people that isn't 95% new woman he should ask about to find the choirs with more men in them.

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XenoBitch · 30/12/2024 21:53

Bluelagoondrmr · 30/12/2024 21:51

If he wants to meet people that isn't 95% new woman he should ask about to find the choirs with more men in them.

He isn't fussed about the sex of people. It was me who wondered as the ads seemed to feature mostly women. So I wondered if Rock Choir was something men were just not interested in.

The male choirs we have found have been church based, and he is not into that at all.

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FanSpamTastic · 30/12/2024 22:13

There are men and lots of the choir leaders are men. Rock Choir also occasionally does evenings for men to encourage more men to join. Tell him to give it a go - you can get a free trial week to see if he likes it either way no commitment.

smurfmonkey · 30/12/2024 22:19

Have a look to see if there's a Tuneless Choir group nearby, it's very similar to Rock Choir. Each one I think is slightly different in format but the one I go to is very much group karaoke and there are blokes there, with and without other halves. I had a look at Rock Choir, but it seemed a bit less varied in terms of how many songs are sung and seemed a bit more focused on preparing for performances rather than just turning up and howling through some classics 😂

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XenoBitch · 30/12/2024 22:24

smurfmonkey · 30/12/2024 22:19

Have a look to see if there's a Tuneless Choir group nearby, it's very similar to Rock Choir. Each one I think is slightly different in format but the one I go to is very much group karaoke and there are blokes there, with and without other halves. I had a look at Rock Choir, but it seemed a bit less varied in terms of how many songs are sung and seemed a bit more focused on preparing for performances rather than just turning up and howling through some classics 😂

My best friend goes to Tuneless Choir :)
Sadly, none local to me/DP.

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smurfmonkey · 30/12/2024 22:28

Ah that's a shame, although tell him to keep double checking. I'm in the Midlands and there's a new one starting near to me in the New Year and one starting up in Bristol soon too so they seem to be popping up a bit more now🙂

VeggPatch · 30/12/2024 22:31

I've sung in choirs since I was small and the right choir is very much personal to the individual. My own preference is a good church choir (not his thing by the sounds of it) or a choral society, which he might enjoy more but it would be a "singy choir". Both of those tend to have more women than men but have to have a reasonable number of men otherwise the music won't work. There are relatively few male only choirs now and they tend to be either very niche, or extraordinarily good - professional or exceptional amateurs.

I did go to a Rock Choir once to try it and didn't like it - not because there's anything intrinsically wrong with it, it's just not my thing at all. If your DH hates the type of music I like, then he may well love the rock choir!

DooDooDooDooDooDooDooDoo · 30/12/2024 22:32

I've just moved from a RC choir of about 80 where there were four men to one of 170ish where there are about 20 men.

None of them are with their wives as far as I can tell.

DelilahBucket · 30/12/2024 22:36

Each choir varies. I sing with Rock Choir and across the four choirs my leader runs we have one with mostly men in the lower section, two with a good mixture of men and women in the lower section and one with three men in a 125 member choir. Whatever the lay of the land he will have a warm welcome from the choir leader and members.

Zhx3 · 30/12/2024 22:42

I joined Rock Choir for a year when practices coincided with my day off, and I really enjoyed it. I can read music so I could have joined something a bit more advanced, but I thought the people were so friendly and I enjoyed the singing.

Our choir leader is such a bouncy, energetic and enthusiastic woman, she made the whole experience fun. Yes, it's a bit cringe, but if you don't mind that, I'd say try out the taster session.

It's expensive, more so than other choirs, and it can be restrictive in terms of repertoire, but I found it very helpful in terms of well-being (I was having a hard time at work that year).

Latenightreader · 30/12/2024 22:42

We have an excellent community choir (no performances, no auditions, no fees, lots of fun). It is about 1/3 men, some of whom come with wives/partners, but many don’t. It is run by our local Baptist minister but we mainly sing musicals/pop/rock, with a few carols at Christmas time. Lots of people go for the social side. Highly recommended if you are in the Cambridge area!

MferMonsterSearchingForRedemption · 30/12/2024 23:17

I was a part of a Rock Choir for many years.

There were two men there who I happen to still be friends with today. They are a lot older than me but great friends.

I stopped going as it all became too samey and I couldn't abide the corny dance moves any longer.