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Help! My mum is invisible!

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Manchestermummax3 · 29/12/2024 20:23

Well, that's how she feels.

Mum is 60s, few years past menopause now but seems really down & I'm worried about her.
She's expressed to me recently that she feels invisible, people look through her, no one notices she's in a room, that kind of thing.

She is a conventionally beautiful woman, slim, looks after her skin etc. She's now retired from a career (police officer) that had attracted a stereotypical response from quite a lot of men. So think was used to the 'flirty banter' that came with the job.

I think it runs deeper than the superficial though.

How can I help boost her esteem?
What can I suggest?
She really is a wonderful mum & I hate to see her so down 😔

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Manchestermummax3 · 30/12/2024 17:58

Thank you everyone who has made some great suggestions & expressed you're experiences.
I think a magistrate or something in a position of trust, possibly with a charity/school could be a good opportunity for her.
Her current hobby is gardening (which she does alone). She lives right up the road from an allotment, but her garden is plenty big enough & the wait list is years anyway. Complaining to the council is her 2nd fave hobby! 🤣 She's got a right bee in her bonnet about pot holes, disabled facilities & housing shortages!

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