In Laws

[HonestMumma]

Hi mums,
This Christmas my husbands family have been very rude to him via phone call and text message due to us not being in our house on Boxing Day. apparently they visited and we weren’t in. Now they live an hour away, they did not contact us to say they were coming. So clearly we didn’t know.
they have in the past just landed unannounced and we have tried to communicate please let us know you are coming. But this Boxing Day we were genuinely out now they have been so cheeky to my husband texting we always come to your house on Boxing Day ( actually it could be any day over Xmas that they would arrive at our house- we never get notice)
I feel sad for my husband and he is hurt. We have done nothing wrong and he feels he just can’t be bothered contacting them as they just want drama. Which we always avoid at any cost. What’s the best way to handle? I’m very cross but don’t want to fall into trap of an argument. TIA

From husband: "Hi Mum and Dad. Yes, really disappointing that we didn't get to see you on boxing day.

Let's get a date in the diary we're both free and next time we can prep to see you so your journey isn’t wasted. Looking forward to it"

Yes what Keroppi said above. I’m glad you were out! Now hopefully they’ll have realised the consequences of just turning up at people’s homes. It’s so bloody rude! Especially at Christmas

Update; we didn’t make contact yet but today we received a phonecall from his mum to say she was visiting us today. Phone call was at 2pm, we were just about to leave the house to go shopping and go out for dinner. We explained it didn’t suit, she wanted to know what time we would be back but we couldn’t really put a time on it. Infact it would have been too late to visit then. So we said we would pop down to see her in a few days. Of course we will contact to sort day: time. I just worry my DH family will be confrontational about us not being in our house Boxing Day to greet them. But I guess getting a phone call today was an improvement. No apologies for being rude or unreasonable though.