For 8 years I was very good friends with a school mum. Our children are all the same ages so we had a lot in common and would do activities together during school holidays. It wasn’t just for the children either we were good friends ourselves and would have child free time and nights out especially when they got older.
When I unexpectedly fell pregnant (after not wanting anymore and she was 1000% done too) she went cold on me. I didn’t hear from her as much and she’d always avoid baby related chat. I never pushed it or asked why because if she wanted me to know she’d tell me.
She became more distant. I didn’t get responses from messages anymore or it would take a week to hear from her. We’d arrange things then they were cancelled so I stopped initiating. I didn’t hear from her for 3 months. I text asking how she was etc and she replied but in her usual way. So I left it there. I know when someone isn’t interested in a friendship anymore so I didn’t push.
We bumped into each other Christmas shopping 2 weeks ago and had a chat like normal. It wasn’t awkward and there didn’t appear to be a problem. She even fawned over the baby who she hasn’t acknowledged before. I thought all was fine and back on track but again left on read, ignored messages, no merry Christmas.
i miss her but why should I keep trying just because she acts ‘normal’ every few
months. Any advice?