Xmas thankyous - sadly lacking

[WoodyCoppicePlantationAlmaMater]

I'm reflecting on my gift giving this year - all to family members.

12 people gifted, only 3 thank yous received which I think is a bit ungracious.

I'm trying to be mindful as there have been some family difficulties in recent months - and I know, I know, I know one shouldn't gift with caveats.... but in my heart it does sting a little bit.

Isn't a bit early?

Agree with PP, before you judge I'd give them a little longer to say thank you, it's still early and people have probably had a busy couple of days. I've only got round to properly thanking people today as I've been sorting through the gifts.

Do you mean through the post? I agree, it's too early.

A quick WhatsApp would do

We always do proper cards so you wouldn't have got one from us yet

Did you post their gifts? If not did they not thank you in person when you handed them over, if so then I don't really think a second thank you is required.

Same @DappledThings I use the thank you cards as a good way to also send an updated photo of the children so until they are printed the dc can't write them. Try to get them sent out to everyone by end of the first week of January

Give them til the end of Jan then cross them off the list

If you posted gifts, do you know if they've actually received them?
If you dropped them off in person, surely they said thank you then?

I know they've been received for sure, thanks.

Yes, I'm probably bring a tad premature ..... we. Shall. See.

Whilst a whatapp might do for you, other people are not to know that.

I'll be writing my thankyou cards early next week and wouldn't whatsapp before then in case the 'cheap and easy' option of whatsapp was seen as too little care.

I think it’s sad to be counting down the days for your thank yous to arrive.

Did none of them thank you in person then?

I don't think you're a bit premature, neither is it gifting with "caveat".
Problems in life or not, if I receive a present, saying thank you would be high priority and frankly, adult manners.

I rarely send thank you cards these days, I always send a thank you WhatsApp or text/email. I've really cut back on cards/paper over the past couple of years, it seems so wasteful
OP, I also think you may be a little premature.

So if you know they've been received then either the person has let you know they've arrived and presumably said thank you at the time or you handed them over in person and again that's the point someone would say thank you?

Sure, I could have sent a generic Merry Christmas and thank you for X's gift on Christmas day without much thought. However what I prefer to do is send a more personalised message, usually a photo of my child playing with said gift, or wearing the item with a thank you. That might be a couple of days after the event, ie today as this is the first day my child has had to properly play with his new toys. I'd allow a bit more time for people to thank you, whether that's in person, a text or a card.

We always send thank you letters, but we were still opening presents yesterday! Give us a chance!

Its a bit quick when boxing day was only yesterday.

I know what you mean...as a family we text each other on Christmas Day to say "thank you". My daughter's boyfriend (after him making a very big deal about opening and talking us through the gifts he'd bought) then "forgot" to open my present to him, took it home and I heard nothing.

24 hours later my daughter asked him if he liked what I'd bought and he still hadn't opened it!

I'd taken a lot of time to choose something I thought he'd like and I'm still stewing on it. Yes, I know you'll all think I'm over reacting but I wish he'd just opened the bloody parcel and said "thanks".

Presumptious

Ok so how do you know they arrived if they didn't tell you they had the gifts or you didn't hand them over in person? I'm not being presumptuous I genuinely just don't see how in either situation a thank you wouldn't have been exchanged?

Some people (like me) have been working hard all day in our paid jobs. I have received thank you texts and will send some later. Not everyone is off work.

Oh, I've been at work (very short Xmas break) quite busy myself, still managed 5 minutes in my day ...... 🙄

Couldn't agree more...such a poor excuse