I wish I was more like my friend

[Mylonghair]

She's so outgoing. Always on the go. Loves anything social. Will chat to anyone. Laughs at everything. She could full into a bucket of shit and would come out laughing. Plays everything by ear in terms of planning and wings everything which always turns out as needed.
I am often worn out just listening to her extensive plans while she works out to the minute how she will fit it in all.

I am happy alone or with people but chose to spend more time alone. I am comfortable talking to anyone but could never be as happy go lucky as my friend.

While I sit looking at my lovely re-arranged, neat & tidy airing cupboard (because I have to have order in my house and can't function in any disorganised chaos), my friend is living in a house of total chaos, slightly grubby in places but she could not give a flying fook as she's having the time of her life

I am a bit like your friend. Wasn't always. Lets just say life circumstances made me learn how to be outgoing.
But like everyone else I have my down days and I am having one now.

She could full into a bucket of shit and would come out laughing

I once actually did this. Stepped into a field that I thought was dried out mud to find it was actually a field full of wet cow shit that I sank into up to my knees on both legs ( I was in USA).. It was quite hard to pull myself out of it.

I did come out laughing What else can you do in such an absurd and gross situation?

Also I am not very interested in having a tidy airing cupboard, but I didnt think anyone envied me for that!

I'm a bit like your friend. If you don't laugh at the obstacles in life you worry about them
What's the point?

I used to be like your friend but since my DH has become a martyr to his age and illness that he won't seek treatment for, I have allowed my world to shrink with his because I thought it would be temporary.
I don't think it is, so next year I will be taking steps to expand my horizons again. I will not be his carer/companion if he won't do anything to help himself, I don't care what the wedding vows said (he broke them first anyway).

I got educated out of ‘life envy’ and ‘personality envy’ when the golden girl of my acquaintance (lovely person, kind, intelligent and popular, married well off handsome man) ended up having two high needs autistic sons and her husband died young of cancer. One of the sons is now living full time in residential care as he was too much for her to manage. I would not want her life for anything. Having said that, she manages it all with as good grace as she has shown all her life, but I know I would not have that strength and I thank god for the more low key life I have had. You never know what is round the corner for anyone.

Good luck in your new life.

It's not that hard to wing it these days. I am just back from a solo trip to Greece which took me about 45 minutes to organise. I stayed in a very cheap AirBnB- less than 50 Euro- which was fine. If it had been awful, I would have moved. Not the end of the world. Did everything by myself.

What is stopping you from doing something like this? Yes, it can be harder if you have DC etc but most people can expand their lives more than they think they can.

Different strokes for different folks and all that, I have a friend like the one you describe and I love her to pieces; but she's the first to admit she wishes she wasn't x, y or z (the things i admire she finds troublesome). Rather than wish you were like someone else, figure out what particular things you envy and see if you can adopt them but in line with your personality.