Parents of babies who cry a lot, when did it improve for you ?

[Mum7644885]

My LO is 7 months and is SUCH a cryer ! Currently unwell which has of course increased the crying but she is just such a restless baby and whines and cry’s sooo much and I am so drained to say the least, it takes me away from being present with my first, I’m really really struggling, when did it get better for you ?

I feel for you OP, DS1 was like that and it was very draining.

The most obvious question is how well is he sleeping? DS1 was a terrible sleeper and the constant crying was in a large part down to him being chronically overtired. We tried absolutely everything gentle but in the end we did sleep training at 10 months old and within three days he was sleeping through and much, much happier and more settled during the day.

He remained a sensitive toddler and child, more easily upset than other children, but not remarkably so and was also full of fun and a delight to parent. And he completely mellowed out as a teen, to the extent that he is unrecognisable!

I meant to add, thay another milestone that saw a big decrease in whinging was getting mobile. As well as being overtired, I think he just really did not enjoy being a baby. He was much happier once he was able to toddle about.

Hey @thesunisastar , she usually sleeps okay of a night but struggling since being full of cold etc. My first was a much worse sleeper but funnily enough very pleasant of a day. Number 2 is all over the place with naps though, she can fight it terrible and your point on ‘ didn’t enjoy being a baby’ feels very similar, she just gets sooo frustrated but because of that won’t spend long enough trying to master skills because she gets upset too quick. I’m feeling so burnt out by her and almost very distant, I don’t enjoy being with her and I know that is so awful to say

Aw bless you, she does sound frustrated. Don't beat yourself for how you are feeling, it's very, very hard looking after a grumpy baby. I didn't really enjoy any of the first year with DS1 and was completely burnt out. It started to get better between 12 and 18 months and by the time he was 2, I loved being a mum. And I think I sailed through through the toddler years compared to my friends who had easy babies - not because DS1 was an easy toddler (he definitely wasn't!) but because it was so much easier in comparison. So it wasn't all bad in the end!

My DD was around 2 when she stopped. My DS was fabulous and so quiet until recently. He is 10 months & no sign of him stopping he's soooo clingy for me which I love cause DD isn't. I can't do about 14 months like this (crying) though😂. You're not alone OP❤️

So hard 😭, I keep hoping it will get better soon but it just doesn’t, feel so low because of it, i get jealous of people with chilled happy babies

Have things improved?

@TinkerTinkerbelle id say it’s gotten better definitely but she still has her moments definitely, sometimes I can’t put her down which is hard

@Mum7644885 Thank you for replying. My daughter is 4.5 months and sounds similar. I’m hoping things improve once she is more mobile 🙏🏼

Being more mobile definitely helped our daughter, she was much happier once on the move. She goes to nursery though so constantly picking up bugs and is teething so between those two things come tears … babies I suppose. I hope things get better/easier for you asap, it’s tough going x

DS cried non stop until he was 4 …. years old!

I am not exaggerating- he didn’t sleep either - maybe would drop off around 2am

It was hard! We took him to different doctors but they couldn’t find any medical reason for this

Now I think I’d be more pro active - this was late 90s so not great internet usage

He was a great and v easy child / teenager / adult!

@Mum7644885 thank you ☺️ x

@MumofSpud wow that must have been an incredibly difficult time ! I’m glad he was at least good after that point !