Neuro diversity and DC friends

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If you are ND, do you ever worry that it hinders DC's ability to keep friends or have playdates? DS good at making friends but we never manage to have playdates very often and I worry it's because his friends' parents think I am too strange. The other possibility is that when playdates were starting to become the norm for his age, lockdowns hit.

I keep trying to invite his friends and keep failing every time. He puts on a brave face but I know he is lonely.

Why would you think the parents might think you're too strange?

Can you give an example of things you do/say that might worry them?

I am mostly quiet. I am a SAHM and I have ASD. I am mostly pretty nerdy really (books, gaming, DnD) I try hard to be welcoming but I read somewhere that sometimes if you are ND, it makes NT people feel uncomfortable full stop. And now I worry that this is me.

I asked my bluntest friend if it was me and she said no. But then she is already my friend.

So how would they even know you're ND?

I think you are overthinking it. It’s not about you but who your child wants to play with and vice versa. How old is he?

I want him to be able to play with who he wants to play with. Of course I do. But when he has asked to play with a friend, it is like pulling teeth to arrange anything. And not on my part, I bend over backwards to make us available and on the rare occasions I succeed, it never happens again. I keep thinking it may be easier when he starts secondary in September.