Life is for living 2025.

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My aim is to feel fulfilled and to live , rather than exist.

It's how to achieve this that I'm unsure of .

Let's all encourage each other to achieve fulfillment.

I know what you mean. Having goals and a fulfilling hobby help me. Carving out time for myself is important. I do spend a lot of time watching reality TV though in my down time, and want to cut back on this as I feel like I am almost experiencing things through other people on TV that I would actually like to be doing myself. I want to read more and say yes to more invitations and try to watch more movies. Be a bit more curious and learn more. Exercise a bit more regularly, on top of my hobby. Meanwhile, I do need to help my teen through her GCSEs so there will be sacrifice of my own needs but that’s okay. I think time management is so crucial. Making time to do everything is possible with planning and discipline. What are your plans?

I hear you OP. Bin living in a fog for most of last 3 years due to death of partner. 2025 will see me relocate, move jobs and hopefully starting to feel more like the old me. We can do this.

Can I join please? I'm the process of ending a marriage I so badly want to work but it's pretty clear it won't.

I need to make 2025 just about me that my DC.

I don't know really, I just don't want to feel like this.

I feel like my spark has gone out.

I'm writing lists of little things. Maybe it's an accumution of little things I need rather than big ones. I agree about curiosity and learning. I also need to increase my confidence

Sounds like the wheels are in motion for you to have a new start.

I've had a significant bereavement this year, which has really impacted my emotional health.

I have joined a small local gym, which has been really positive. It's new and you train in small groups. I am starting to get to know people on my group and actually looking forward to going tomorrow.

I've also joined a book club group. The first meet up is January.

My focus for 2025 is to continue to try and build a life around me that I can be part of.

I just wanted to add it's not easy. But I think there are lots of people who want to form positive relationships /friendships and have a more fulfilling life. You just need to find each other.

I'm in. List my job after a quarter of a century in early December.

Currently don't know how to feel about 2025, I'm terrified and excited in equal measure.

Actually maybe more terrified than excited thinking about it...

My friend once said to me, 'your get up and go has got up and gone' and that I've list my 'spark'. She wasn't being unkind. It's the truth. We got this MNs. Hugs

I want to be able to relax a bit more. Serious health scare this year, demanding relatives who wouldn't accept I was ill and hospitalised, friend OD'd. It's all been a bit much.

Of course you can join , everyone is welcome here.

I have been having thoughts of ending my marriage, although I'm not sure if it's a sympton or a cause of how I feel .

I understand what you are sat saying, and it will be nice to develop connections along the way, but I feel my fulfillment needs to come from within.

On the surface it doesn't look like there's anything wrong with my life, it's the way I feel.

I was feeling like this last year so I joined a meet up group that gets together and does various walks and social events. That's helped a bit.
I think getting off my phone more and engaging in something real will help me improve this.
I bought myself a book for Christmas and I'm going to read that.
I thought about doing something once a fortnight but I'm still thinking of what to do.
A list sounds good.

I've been running since 23rd December last year. 335miles or so. Hadn't run in thirty years and hated it then.

Started with couch to 5k after a check run which felt great for the first three metres 🤣

New lease of life! Run with someone I knew thirty years ago most days, Parkrun when I feel like it, with my daughter when she's home or on my own. Usually 5k, sometimes less, occasionally more. I'm probably fitter and healthier but certainly happier because I am driven to doing it. Certainly helps to have someone to run with sometimes though. And decent shoes!

...and there's a definite spark back in my life!

I have been thinking about this since I seen a clip on Instagram. had 2 breavements in last 2 years, awful time at work and gained too much weight ect...
Anyway you pick one big goal for 2025... so 2025 was the year I launched a podcast... gave up drinking... climbed Everest.ect So for me its climb the largest peak where I live.
Next pick 6 mini adventures and do one every 2 months.
Lastly you add 1 new positive habit per quarter eg be on time for every appointment or daily meditation.....

Anyway, thought i would share!!

I'll join also please. For the majority of the year I am just existing, not living.

💐 good luck with everything

This .

Although I'm not sure if it's gone of it's own accord , or if it has been gradually chipped away.

Health scares can make us reavulate things .

In general, women are put upon by our families, and not given the opportunity to relax and rest. This can be harmful to us .

I completely understand!

I was thinking yesterday that over the past 10 years I have gone through some major health issues, several surgeries, assault by a male 'friend', family estrangement (my choice but still hard to manage) and a complete mental health breakdown.

It has completely exhausted my body and mind.

Having had a few days off this week and the opportunity to sleep late and rest, I have started feeling a bit more like myself.

I already started making some changes last year by relocating to a small seaside town for a less stressful daily life, buying a small house and renovating it myself, slowly but surely, and cutting all toxic people out of my life.

But one major stress point is my job which I absolutely hate and I told myself yesterday that this is the year that I leave it and find myself something more suitable.

I have found that exercise helps and doing a 10 minutes daily meditation and journaling.

I find it hard to think what to do too. Everything seems expensive, as well .

I dont always need big activities, sometimes a random mooch around on my own is ideal.

I've chosen "brave" as my word to live by for 2025.

I seem to have lost lots of my confidence over the last few years - since lockdown probably - and want to start doing things again. This year (2024) I saw lots of things I thought I'd enjoy - local walking group, local craft group, some volunteer work etc - but always chickened out of doing it at the last minute. Im really good at making pathetic excuses to justify to myself why its better not to do something. It doesn't help that I'm quite a shy, socially anxious person. This year I'm going to be brave and go join in with things.

I've realised that I've been thinking about climbing for a long time. You know those walls that you climb with a harness?
Maybe 2025 is the year I do this.
I'm also thinking of doing lots of cheap stuff so I can save money and do some weekends away.

Cheap stuff I thought of -
Reading more books (free from library)
Walking in local interesting places (small cost for travel)
Cycling more (free as I have a bike)
Meeting up with friends more (maybe cost of a coffee or free if we meet up for walks)

I want to save more money so budgeting and meal planning will help with that.

I never make NY resolutions but this year I have decided to.

I want to Have More Fun.

I want to go away for that long weekend I have been putting off. Take that falconry course I thought was too self indulgent. Go on an AI holiday not a hiking trip because the latter is meant to be more worthy. Read books I like (and dump my rather intense and pretentious bookclub that I hate).

@SilverBlueRabbit

I love animals and your post just made me want to look at falconry courses in my area! Found a day 'experience' and will definitely do that :).