Get Married

[Nettleteaser101]

I know I'm very old (nearly 70), but I read a lot about family's where the couple are not married and he/she is having an affair and nothing is in her/his name and can't leave because there is nowhere to go.
It is so easy to set up home and have children with out being married, no stigmare like back in the day and that is fair enough, but for your own piece of mind should you not be married? It protects you so much and it's not old fashioned it's financial sense. Some people say its just a piece of paper but it is much more than that.
If you don't want to marry then get a pre-nup. Please every one protect yourselves.
So many broken relationships on here makes you too scared to live with anyone.
I lived with my DH for about 15 years before we got married and then we went through a rocky patch and I went to Citizens Advice to see where I stood has nothing was in my name, and she told me to get married so I would be not be left high and dry. We did get married and now feel more relaxed knowing I am financially safe. I know money and property takes the romance out but you have to be secure. You never know what's around the corner.

As a relatively high earning woman, I have chosen to stay single. I own my house. My ds lives with me. I have maintained my career and have a moderate pension.

I have had three long term (I thought permanent) relationships including one where the wedding was booked. None has lasted. I would be considerably poorer if I had married any of them. So, as with most things, it depends on circumstances.

I have several close friends. Two are married and desperate to escape their financially abusive husbands, two are divorced with one living in rented and one now buying a house of her own. The last had a happy marriage and is now sadly widowed.

Better advice would be never rely on a partner financially, never live in a home on less than equal terms and never have more than one child under school age.

Silly advice. Surely the wise advice is to never make yourself financially vulnerable and ensure that you work and build up a pension. And find a partner that is happy to share the family loaf. am not married. But I have a great career with high earnings that match my partner, savings and a good pension pot.

I would never advise my kids to get married for safety. You build your own safety.

I agree that's what it was for in the first place, so the man can't drop all his responsibilities after having kids and scarper. Leaving the woman in poverty. But it's dressed up as romantic - i can see why but kids need to know the real reason too.

My daughter, upon mine and my husbands death is likely to inherit a substantial amount. I'm concerned in case she marries a waste of space of a man who will take half of everything she has, for which we and the grandparents have worked hard to build.

You should make sure you have financial security for yourself and not have to rely on a man. There are too many stories where one person brings more to the table and when divorced, they are forced to split everything. Best to find a partner who can bring equally as much as yourself to the table.