Christmas day sadness.

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Me and my husband had a lovely day at my parents house. My wonderful mum is 84 yet had worked so hard with food, beautiful table etc. We all pitched in helping and having a good laugh together. After a very stressful few weeks I relaxed a little and felt content. Until my precious dad had a TIA (mini stroke). It was one of the scariest things I've ever experienced. Paramedics came very fast and thoroughly checked everything. He thankfully seems fine now and will see the stroke clinic within 48 hours. My husband had to go home due to our pets. I'm now sat alone in my parents living room in my childhood home, at the age of 47 sobbing like a baby at the thought of losing either of them and just how fragile evrything is. Just being in my childhood home and thinking that one day they will no longer be in it is breaking my heart. My alarm is set to check on Dad in a couple of hours. Just feel sad and a bit alone.

I’m so so sorry , I hope your dad starts to heal soon. It must have been very scary for you all.

It’s understandable to be upset, you’ve had a horrible shock and a scary experience. Hand hold from me. Cry as much as you need to. I hope your dad is ok

Oh how painful, I’m sorry. Be very gentle with yourself tonight. Cry as much as you need to, it will release some of those stress hormones. One thing that will never change is the love in your family and the kind of loving daughter you are.

Sending you hugs OP. I hope your dad is better soon. It's so hard when parents start getting old. I'm very close to my parents, especially my mum. I know one day they won't be around, and I can't even begin to imagine how I would cope with it.

So sorry OP. That sounds like a huge shock. I am a similar age and know the feeling of life and especially parents health feeling more uncertain. I left my parents today feeling similar. Extra hard with the shock of the TIA and paramedics and now being alone though. I hope your dad is home safely soon and you can all get some much needed rest ❤️

Thank you so much. I've been feeling for a long time how vulnerable they seem to be becoming and I just want to protect them from everything, which of course I can't.

Thank you so much everyone. I feel a little less alone now (my husband is amazing btw so I am not really alone, but he is unwell and asleep at home so don't want to call and wake him).

So sorry to hear this OP. I presume your dad's symptoms completely resolved by the time the paramedics arrived and heart rate, blood pressure etc were ok? Have you got an appointment time and date already for the TIA clinic?

I’m so sorry OP. My 77 year old dad collapsed this evening and we had to call the paramedics out. He seems OK now and we think he just fainted but he couldn’t speak to us for a while and it was very scary. I know that I am not going to be able to sleep tonight. It’s so hard to see him getting older as he’s alway been so fit and active.

Yes, he seemed back to normal quite quickly. The paramedics did ECG and blood pressure (several times) and these were all fine. They gave him an aspirin and referred to stroke clinic there and then. We're now waiting for a call with an appointment time. They said should be within 48 hours. You sound like you are kmowledgable about this?

So sorry to hear you have had a similar day to me. So very scary. I hope your Dad is ok. I am very far off sleep so about to catch up on Eastenders. I have my alarm set to go and check on him at 2am.

I’m just about to watch the final episode of Black Doves. DH has had to get in with our 11 year old DS who was upset about his Grandad and can’t sleep either. My thoughts are with you OP.

You too. Good luck getting some rest at some point.

Thankfully Dad seems fine this morning. Still waiting for the stroke clinic appt. Thanks for all your support last night when I was feeling extremely fragile.

So sorry, this kind of thing is awful. Hope he will be OK.