Children of difficult parents - come in for a glass of something nice!

[BigCheekBitch]

Saw this video on instagram and thought this definitely wasn’t the case for me 😂😂 and decided to find some like minded women on here.

difficult day here on Christmas with my mum, as usual.

how is everyone else doing? 🍷

Oh bless you @BigCheekBitch my Christmases have been waaay better since my mother died. No guilt, no dealing with the comments/rudeness/thoughtlessness/lateness etc. No dealing with the casual ‘this is what I’d have done better if I were hosting’ comments -from a woman who could not/would not cook herself and who kept a house so untidy/dirty I couldn’t sit round there for more than 30mins before my allergies would be triggered.

And no, there was no ‘magic’ created by her either. Christmas is the same date every year yet always seemed to be a surprise and always never enough time for her to be ready or have all of the presents wrapped either. And she did not work.

Her best attempt at ruining Xmas involved being 2 hours late (she lived 20mins away) neither her nor my Dad rang to tell me they would be late. I was hosting lunch for 12 (including them) which had a shellfish starter waiting on ice..they arrived with no apology, unwrapped presents and an unwashed Labrador in tow. Needless to say it was very upsetting.

The only benefit to having a mother like this is that I am great mother and hostess and try to make my own family’s Xmas as magical as possible with our own traditions. I hope you have had as good a day as you could’ve had. 💐 for you (although wine is probably better!)

It's been tough. Lots of issues, got through yesterday quite well up to the point that my brother had given my Mum too many gins and my DD1 tried to explain th Grandma why her obviously favouritism over one grandchild was upsetting. Then it deteriotated badly. New day today and I am going to do my best to keep it lovely, while quietly counting down the hours til my home is my own again,., Friday!