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Feeling really down and lonely this Christmas

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christmasbluess · 25/12/2024 20:05

I'm feel really low this Christmas. I'm turning 31 soon and I think it's really hitting home that I'm still single - I've never really been bothered about finding a partner but with each passing day it seems someone else I grew up with is getting engaged/married/announcing a pregnancy, I'm the only single one left in my 30ish-person class from primary school who is not settled down with a partner.

I don't really have any friends or much of a life. I work from home in a small team scattered around the country. I love the job, it pays well and as an introvert the small amount of social interaction I get through meetings etc is enough - but relatives keep mentioning I need to be out and socialising and doing things which I get...

This Christmas there has been constant digs and well-meaning 'advice' from relatives and it just makes me want to cry to be honest. I feel so isolated and lonely. I don't click with anyone in my family, I don't want to be here with them but they're all I have.

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Miloarmadillo2 · 25/12/2024 20:21

Do you want to find a partner? Not because of FOMO but on your own account?

Sorry to hear insensitive family are making you feel crap.

Passmetheaero · 25/12/2024 20:54

Do you actually, genuinely want a partner, or just feel you SHOULD be in a relationship because everyone else is and family keep mentioning it?

NunyaBeeswax · 25/12/2024 20:58

I'd have a think about what your ideal Christmas looks like.

Then make it happen every year.

Top tips for life - Just because they're family, doesn't mean you have to spend time with them, accommodate their opinions or even listen to them.

amoreoamicizia · 25/12/2024 21:04

I worked from home at your age and scarcely met any men except online. If I could go back to your age I'd work in person at least a few days a week and probably in a city to increase the chances of meeting someone. That's my brutally honest advice having lived this kind of situation.

ItsVeryConfusing · 25/12/2024 21:12

I got married a bit late and finding the right partner really took a lot of work. I really like that line in LA story where he said "There's someone out there for everyone - even if you need a pickaxe, a compass, and night goggles to find them."

I pretty much did need all those, but I did find my guy. I think you could go out and get busy and you could definitely find someone. I joined a group that had the same interest as me and there were guys that I got on with there.

Imanautumn · 20/11/2025 13:23

How about volunteering this Christmas, that way you’re not alone but not with people you’re not close to. Plus you will meet new people.

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