A thread for those on their own

[allaloneandlost]

Just that really. Please feel free to use this thread for company.

Hello! I hope you've got a stack of nice food to get through today, some good tv lined up. Sun is out here, which is a bonus 😎

Hiya! Thanks for replying and hope you have. Just drying my tears and deciding what to do next. Always something to do at least :)

I've been reading some of the threads in here the last few days.

I'm telling you now, I'd rather be alone than put up with what some women are putting up with.

My bar seems so fucking high compared to some people, yet I don't think it is.

Basic respect.
A few presents at birthday and Christmas.
A hand in the kitchen and keeping shit tidy.
That's it really.
I'd rather be alone forever than not have those basic minimums.

But besides being single, it's not my year this year to have DD so she's off at the exes this week.

I sometimes feel like the most solitary person in the world. But I never feel lonely or down or depressed about it, I prefer it this way in a lot of ways and always have.

I hope other solitary people don't feel lonely or down though.
I'm alone by choice and design, but, I can imagine it's a hard time of year for those who are alone not by choice and design.

I know love tell me about it! Shame to read those threads and yes better to be alone and honest. You know where you stand and no expectations. There's a lot to be said for that.

As a single mum you must carry a load so hope you can relax or if not, there's always something to keep busy with.

About to put the radio on for company and whilst pottering.

Hi. I'm on my own today too. Not particularly bothered. Had invitations but declined. Just having toast, got treats in i'll have later. Planning on stretching legs and reading too. Might wash hair-well it is Christmas 😂

Happy Christmas to everyone, enjoy family, friends, or solitude, whichever applies. 🎅🎅🎅

Not cried yet today, maybe that's progress...

That sounds like a plan!

You've done better than me @YogaLite can you find a way to stay busy?

Radio Garden has non festive things like comedies if that helps.

Don't really want tv, I think I go and make tiramisu...
Was going to start on my tax return but not in the mood for it either.

That sounds a nice dessert. You'd be surprised how many people do their tax return today. Don't blame you though!

@allaloneandlost and you, how are you getting through it?

As a single mum you must carry a load so hope you can relax or if not, there's always something to keep busy with.

I forget where I got it from but I got a free month for a streaming service called 'Crunchyroll' , it's all Japanese Anime.
I dismissed it for ages and kinda looked down my nose at anime and anime fans, dismissed them as teenage boys and weirdos..
but then used the free month and watched a couple things.
And now I'm hooked.

I wish I'd found anime years ago, it's so brilliant. Action packed, emotional, funny and way more entertaining than half the crap on Netflix and TV.

So, I'm sat with coffee, the dog, mince pies and binge watching Anime. I don't have to worry about unwelcome visitors or going anywhere.
Perfect really. (I miss my kid though.. so it's not all buttercups and puppy dogs)

I'm alone and pottering around
Done some laundry, cleaned the windows, the microwave, the sink
Quite happy to have a quiet day

I am on my own with my dogs, I chose not to go to my son's house as I have a heavy cold and don't want to pass it on. He is going to bring me a dinner round.
Quite happy with the dogs, a new book and whisky in my coffee. Christmas has never been the same since my husband died.

I'm alone today. Last parent died. DC with ex. It's a sad shit time.

May I invite you to try the Christmas Puzzle
Let me know how you get on.

I'm using the day for DIY, no interruptions! Having a much needed coffee break, music is playing, it's all good. I was never much into Christmas and now I have no family obligations, or have to work, I get on with the day my way. Later I'll have curry and a drink, maybe stream some telly or read. No stress, no drama. I didn't tell many people that I was using the time for DIY, I couldn't be bothered with the sad face/head tilt/suggestions of voluntary work/pity invites. For some reason a lot of people don't get that I enjoy my time alone.

@YogaLite Very slowly thanks trying to block it out. As an NHS worker with two days off you'd think I'd enjoy the quiet and it's just another day but it's been hard this year. Having a potter whilst watching a funny live streamer. It's cheered me up a bit.

Thanks to all for replying and the invite @DanFmDorking sounds fun!

Sorry to those who are bereaved or ill. It's hard for loads of people.

Cleaning's a good idea and a chance to catch up! Wish I knew how to do DIY! Glad you all have relaxing plans and anime sounds great. Yes no to the pity invites and being a spare part. Better to have your own company

@allaloneandlost I don't know how to DIY but YouTube and determination get's me there! While I'll use tradies for electrical/gas/heavy stuff I'm keen to learn and deal with everything else myself.

Tiramisu made for the rest of the week, washing machine going and I have just tuned into The Nutcracker for some culture.

Hello and happy Christmas all. I’m by myself today too - kids are with their dad until tomorrow and I chose to be by myself rather than see family. I’ve done parkrun with a friend and am now watching an old James Bond on the ITVX app. Looking forward to Gavin and Stacey later!

I’ve sorted out all my kitchen cupboards and done 2 loads of laundry - happy with that!

Having read some of the threads on here today I am glad I chose to spend it alone. It’s so much stress on just one day and I’m happy with some peace and quiet and no drama.

On my own with the Ddogs
Prepared the veg and have been out for a lovely walk, now I am cooking my lunch with plenty of spare to make B&S tomorrow (and Friday, Saturday etc etc).
Sitting down to watch Wallace & Gromit later
OH comes back tomorrow evening so we will have our Christmas (and presents) on Friday.

Had a couple of offers to go for lunch but am happy with my own (and Ddogs) company.🎄

You'll get through it.

Look forward to DC being back. 👍🏻

Then get planning some happy, non shit times.

@AwfulSomething that's brilliant! Youtube's very useful.

The relaxing plans on here sound amazing :)

I had my Xmas with my kids yesterday it was amazing !! Eating all the leftovers today watching movies etc and loving life . My kids are at their dads today. I am alone but not lonely. So much better than spending xmas with someone /people I can't stand.