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Lonely sad Christmas.

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2025hope · 24/12/2024 18:50

Anyone feeling sad and lonely? Lost my lovely mum last year. I have a tiny family now (just 3 of us,). I know some people are completely alone so I should be grateful but I just feel shit.

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Sourisblanche · 25/12/2024 07:49

It’s tough at this time of year isn’t it. I lost my mum this year and my dad is here staying with us. I watched him arrive, park in the driveway and get his stuff out of the car and there was no one in the passenger seat. I just keep thinking where is my mum! I miss having her in the kitchen with me, sharing news and a glass of wine while I prepare dinner.

Luckily I have teens who are very good at hugging and keeping the atmosphere light with their chatter.

MumOfOneAllAlone · 25/12/2024 11:26

Meadowfinch · 25/12/2024 03:07

@MumOfOneAllAlone I wrap my own presents as well. When my ds was four he got upset because Father Christmas hadn't brought mummy any presents so he tried to give me half of his. So I started buying little things, hand cream, a new mascara etc to wrap and give me something to open while he opened his.

It turned into a regular thing. As a single mum money can be tight but I now treat myself every year and it feels good. He's old enough to buy me presents now, but treating myself as well as him is an important ritual. It says I am just as deserving and it's good to recognise that.

What a sweet boy 🥺

Yeah I love this, we are deserving and it does feel nice opening them tbh

Babadookinthewardrobe · 25/12/2024 11:30

Deepest sympathy to you OP. I lost my darling husband to cancer this year and my heart is breaking today. Your lovely mum and my lovely husband are both watching over us today ❤️

Ratfinkstinkypink · 25/12/2024 11:30

Me. Three years ago DH came home a few days before Christmas on end of life care, it was a horrible time and no matter how hard I try I can't shake my underlying feelings of sadness at this time of year now.

I wish you all a peaceful Christmas

Nextyearhopes · 25/12/2024 11:32

I feel you.
I lost my lovely gran so it’s just mum and me. We will make the best of it.
And the one person who really supported me and got me through turned on me and totally traumatized me back in November. I am trying to work through that.
Hope you manage a reasonable day.

Ratfinkstinkypink · 25/12/2024 11:36

sivouples · 25/12/2024 07:38

I am sorry for your loss but have just read a comment on another thread. A poster’s partner has kicked her out and she’s trying to find a hotel so count your blessings. You’re not actually alone.

The OP is recently bereaved. She acknowledges that she has her family around her but it is still entirely possible to feel sad and alone in a crowded room, telling her to 'count her blessings' when she is grieving seems unkind.

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2025hope · 25/12/2024 14:38

Ratfinkstinkypink · 25/12/2024 11:36

The OP is recently bereaved. She acknowledges that she has her family around her but it is still entirely possible to feel sad and alone in a crowded room, telling her to 'count her blessings' when she is grieving seems unkind.

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Yes. I thought that comment was below the belt.

OP posts:
DanFmDorking · 25/12/2024 14:57

@2025hope - I'm sorry you feel shit 😔
Could I invite you to try the Christmas Puzzle
Let me know how you get on

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