15 month old doesn't make much eye contact

[Mumtobe202310]

Hi All,

Hope you and your LOs are all well.

My LO will be 15 months in 5 days.

I didn't worry this much about lack of eye contact before as he was just a baby but recently as he is growing the lack of eye contact is worrying me a little.

I try to play with him or hold up a toy to my face but he doesn't look up much or hold that eye contact.

We read books together, play toys together, has some screen time etc but as for getting him to look at us its just difficult. He will sometimes look at us for example if he wants a certain book to be read, he will get it and bring it over to me.

I don't know, I guess I'm just a bit worried because at playgroup I see other children be able to speak aswell and bless him, my son he isn't able to say other worlds apart from Amma and Abba.

Recently, I also have this concern he may be getting absence seizures too and am waiting to get a doctor appointment for that.

I feel extremely upset at times because I feel like I failed him by not taking him out hardly or to playgroups etc. Post Natal Depression has been so horrible and I feel like it robbed a lot from my LO and I. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

I'm so sorry for the long post, I'm a first time mum so i guess that ain't helping my worries.

Please be kind to yourself. He's a tiny baby still. Dont compare him as they all develop at own rate

You haven't failed him play groups are nice to get out of the house and socialise but not going won't have harmed your baby's development at all.

Is the lack of eye contact your only developmental concern? Typically you'd expect him to understand a number of words and follow very simple directions, respond to his name and be using gestures. Do 'Amma' and 'Abba' have a specific meaning to him?

Did he have a 12 month developmental check with the health visitor? They are normally the first port of call if you have any concerns about how your little one is developing and they can sign post you to further support if they have any concerns.