A self pitying moan about being ill when I'm hosting tomorrow. Warning: pathetic.

[Janufairy]

I wonder if you forgive me a little moan from my sick bed?

My mum has always hosted Christmas Day for varying numbers of people. But this year I convinced her to let me look after her for a change, and I think everyone is looking forward to it. It will be me and DH, two DC, my parents and a lovely uncle who is undergoing cancer treatment but is currently quite well.

A couple of days ago DC got ill with a fever. He's still not 100% but much better. I started coughing yesterday. Felt dragged down but it was ignorable for most of the day, but I started feeling rough in the evening. I now have an absolute pounding head, chills, and a 60 a day cough 😩 In the circumstances I tested for covid, but it's not that.

Other DC and DH so far fine.

I will power through unless the household health deteriorates and if they still want to come. They might not because of uncle which is understandable but I don't know which way it will go. Ugh, I HATE these borderline type situations, just leave me alone lurgies and let us enjoy Christmas in peace FFS. I just wanted to do something nice and laid back, but no ☹️ <grump>

Argh so sorry to hear, I think the stress is compounded when you're hosting. I usually give ppl the full picture and ask them to decide, at least it's Christmas Eve only and there's still food in the shops.

We had a few of these bugs where you feel utterly lousy / tired but few outward signs. I hope you get it sorted and feel better soon. Sorry that it's been so disappointing 💐

Thank you 😊
Of all the things to worry about, them having to do emergency food shopping isn't one of them! DP are hosting various other people in the coming days, bought a turkey anyway "because it's Christmas" and probably has twice as much food in her house as I do!

Wishing you a lovely Christmas xx

Oh dear - it's horrible being ill when you have festivities on.

If it's any consolation I was severely contagious earlier on this year and infected no-one.

Whinge all you like! Have you done the main food shopping? Make it as easy as possible and cut corners where you can. Rope in anyone to help.

I'm sorry to hear this. Can your DH do the cooking? Or can you postpone the event till New Year?

Yes, food shopping done at least.

DH is a good one. Admittedly it would normally be me taking charge of a roast, but he's far from useless and will step up. Mum of course would get stuck in and help. I'm hoping I won't be totally incapacitated so would power through the rest. Its just that I had images of taking charge for the first time and letting mum relax and be looked after. And also, I'm really worried about passing illness to my uncle, or my DP to be honest who have other family coming to stay with them in the next few days.

Whether they come or not, this turkey is getting cooked tomorrow 😆

Just a quick reply to say rotten luck, and you're not being pathetic.

@Janufairy well, it's something to eat on boxing day!

I wouldn’t host if I felt ill, especially since your uncle is having treatment for cancer and will be immunocompromised.

Yes, this is the biggest concern. It feels a bit early in the day yet to pull the plug myself. I hope I'll feel better in 24hrs but I'm currently dosed on paracetamol and ibuprofen and my head still feels like it weighs a tonne so I don't think full recovery is on the cards.

I know everyone will be different with this, but uncle is very much of the and I quote "you only live once, I won't be scared to do it" mentality, and takes sensible precautions but otherwise carries on. Of course I feel responsibility here too and wouldn't have him over right now, but if things are improved I don't want to feel like I'm making decisions for him. He knows and we all know next Christmas for him is not a given, and he wants to spend this one with the kids. I think I'll chat to my mum in a bit to keep her updated, and then lay out the whole situation this afternoon so we can decide. Sorry, I'm wittering on now.

Hi all, Merry Christmas😊

I thought I'd give a quick update - we decided yesterday to put it off. I'm glad I did because I woke up feeling beyond awful and I've spent the day feeling rougher than I have for a long time I can barely lift my head. It must be flu or something. DH has done a marvellous job of cooking and making everything great for DC.

Anyway, I hope you've all had a better day! Someone have a sherry/G&T/tipple of choice for me!

You are not whining at all.

I feel the same, had a nasty cough yesterday which developed into this horrible cold. Luckily my elderly parents host from theirs and I took the prepared food around on Monday.
Not much consolation when I'm lying here feeling sorry for myself. Get better soon x