Is she pregnant? Or am I wishful thinking? *Lighthearted*

[KendraTheVampyrSlayer]

Close relative, who recently got married. She already has a 2 year old and we know they want more, just don't know when.

She's a massive drinker, has a bit of a reputation for it. She's recently given up drinking. She says she hates what it does to her body and how she acts when drunk. (Reasonable). And she has given it up for a months at time before.

Saw her yesterday and she's put on weight, she herself was bemoaning this and saying she's eating more because she's not drinking. Says she's going to diet in the new year.

But at one point her toddler was throwing a tantrum and hitting her. She quietly said to her, "We don't hit Mummy's boobs, you know they're sore." And that one comment has made me think she's in the early stages of pregnancy.

What do we think? Am I reaching? 😂

(This is lightheaded speculation. She has no fertility issues and it's no secret she and her DH want more kids).

I have lived this - seven pregnancies, all over by 10 weeks, and a lot of hormone treatment which changed my body forever. It is horrible when people poke noses in. It’s really hard to manage it when your body is being considered public property.

I'm so sorry you went through that. And people poking their noses in should know better, especially if they knew you were having fertility problems. But that is not the case here.

You have no idea who does and who doesn't have fertility issues.

Light-hearted or not, drop it.

This isn't really a light hearted thing and also REALLY weird to ask randoms on the internet about your step daughters boobs.

I hope she does and works out its her and then knows what her step mum/dad has been up to

Er, yes I do.

I had sore boobs when I was on the pill (not pregnant) and again when I started HRT (again, not pregnant).

Being pregnant isn't the only reason women get sore boobs.

Plus, how can you know for sure that they don't have fertility issues?
It's none of your business....

Because she would have told me if they did.

How the fuck would anyone on here know? Weird thread.

So you could post about it on mumsnet?

You can’t know that

This kind of speculation is so intrusive and inappropriate. Just weird if only on MN but you've said you have mentioned it to your other daughter? I know you think it's lighthearted and fun and lovely but its really not. We can't help what we notice and wonder about but you can help what comes out of your mouth. You don't mention it, discuss it or imply it with anyone. Basic manners.

@cuteyfluff obviously

You're right.

Yeah I think its incredibly weird and intrusive that you're this invested to be honest. I think you need to stop speculating and leave it alone and put it out of your mind until you get a pregnancy announcement from them.

"As someone who DID suffer from fertility issues, this wouldn't bother me coming from a parent."

As someone who also DID suffer from fertility issues I fucking HATED feeling like I was being watched and like people were speculating about it. Your fertility issues do not make this post okay and it does not give you a free pass to comment on and speculate around other womens bodies. If anything it should mean you know better.

@Lavender14 why is it weird to be invested in whether my DSD is pregnant or not?

I get that my post can be upsetting and I concede that I probably shouldn't have posted it.

But why on earth is a parent being invested in whether their adult child is pregnant, weird?

Pregnant or not , the mother of a toddler is most likely feeling touched out .

Her toddler had probably whacked her boobs several times already that day . It tends to hurt.

There's invested - and then there's overly invested though op and you seem to be in the overly invested category. Whether or not she's pregnant/has another baby/ has no more babies is entirely her decision and I think it's quite unfair to be trying to guess and speculate before someone is ready to disclose that information- parent or not. This thread itself shows that you're getting yourself carried away with this and over stepping - that is over investment.

Of course she would, because you have a right to know everything?

Are you the MIL of the poster on the other thread, the poster who has fertility issues but wants to keep her private business private, and her MIL keeps trying to guess if she's pregnant?

I was wondering this as well! I always thought I'd have had no issue sharing my difficulties with fertility and subsequent pregnancy which was high risk but actually when it came to it I didn't want to tell anyone, not even my best friends who I'd normally tell absolutely everything. Just because you 'think' she'd tell you doesn't mean she would.

This is awful and also a really odd thing to be musing about. Have you got nothing better going on than to gossip about your own family

@TravelInsuranceQ yes I'm that MIL, I'm also Putin, the Antichrist and boogie man.