Boobs no longer sensual after breastfeeding

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I breastfed both of my babies until they were 2.5, stopped recently with the youngest. Not planning on anymore children. My boobs were always a central part of being intimate with DH but now I can’t stand for him to touch them, let alone kiss them. It feels like they’ve served some other purpose and they’re no longer sensual for me?

I’m also a bit self conscious about the appearance but mostly it’s the touching that I find so off puttin! I vaguely remember this improving very slightly a year or so after stopping BF with my first, but then got pregnant with second so don’t know if it would have ever gone away?

anyone else with something similar? Did your boobs become yours again eventually? DH is very patient but I know he’d like to touch a boob again some day!

Yes, it comes back.

@DustyLee123 how long did it take for you?

It does come back. Just feels weird for a bit. Give it time and don't overthink it

It came back for me but did take at least a couple of years, maybe even longer (sorry). Just need to be patient!

@Powderblue1 how long did it take for you? I absolutely cringe if he goes anywhere near them!

Honestly I don’t remember exactly how long but certainly within the year and now many years on they are amazingly sensitive in a good way- far more than previously! So it’s like a reward of sorts!!! It sounds like you’ve still got relatively young kids so it IS hard to separate being in mum mode and wife mode at times during that stage… hopefully things will improve for you both.

I stopped breastfeeding my son at 2, hes now almost 6 and i'd hit the roof if my partner tried to touch my boobs during ANYTHING. Can not stand it now, I even exclusively pumped for my DD1 as the thought of a baby suckling sent me under.

I also found it icky after breastfeeding and I'm not sure it did go away for me.

Oh dear so I reckon it’s a 50-50 chance that mine will come back…DH. Will be sorely disappointed if they don’t.

but yes, that separation between mum mode and sexual adult mode is extremely hard to find these days, I’m so knackered and always thinking of DC and/or wondering if there’ll wake up in the next room 😵‍💫

It’s common to feel touched out during and after breastfeeding. It usually does go away if you aren’t pressured and try not to think about it…..tell DH don’t touch them until or unless you put his hand there.

I used to love mine being touched

I'm now 2.5 years post breastfeeding and cannot cope with them being touched at all

Op I have bf many dc.. The feeling came back even better in time. And also we jam a bit of wood against the door! Helps me relax and not worry a small dc will appear.. Obviously if he knocked we would answer! Rubber door wedge would work!

@waggytaildog how do you manage? I also used to love mine being touched. DH did, too! He never pressurises me but I know he’d like to touch a boob again. I also miss how much I loved it. It’s like a black hole now.

@Santaisfillingthesacks this is reassuring, thank you.

Mine did come back mostly but I cannot tolerate too much still. Maybe try a few boob squeezes through a t shirt bra so you can begin to associate it with non-mum duties but not be so sensitive.

I'm many years past feeding mine , and they never went back to feeling sexual . Someone could touch them for hours and it's still zilch .

I've got to say I've never been able to tolerate anything involving mouth-to-boobs since breastfeeding over a decade ago, but it was never something I liked all that much sensually or was that importanrt to me, so I think I'm the exception rather than the rule

Two years post bf youngest and if DH goes near them I absolutely criiiinge. Worse is any mouth/nipple action. He doesn't bother at all now I've said I can't bear it 😂

@Biroclicker yes I reckon maybe I’ll have to try building up a tolerance or something. The thought of them being off-limits for the rest of my life seems so extreme! But right now I just want to pack them in a sports bra and don’t want anyone to touch them 🌵

Same here and it never came back.

I’m sorry to say, but dd is 7 and it never came back for me. I’m also unable to have sex when she’s in the house sleeping - which limits sexual life to the rare night away without her. I honesty don’t know how people get over this.

Oh god. This is not reassuring. I’m still BF my baby and had assumed this reaction would go away when I stop 🫤

One breastfed child. 17 years ago. I don't mind them being touched, but have literally no feeling in them.

@modgepodge same here, I really hoped it would get better over time but it’s not sounding very likely 🙁

One of mine came back after a couple of years - never as exciting or arousing as before, but ok as part of love n snuggling etc. The other one has remained strictly off limits!