I was feeling super festive at the beginning of the week and now I’m just anxious, and feeling like I can’t be bothered. FIL has skin cancer and heart failure and although not like he used to be has been muddling through by himself as he lives 4 hours away, with DP visiting every 6 -8 weeks, before anyone asks we’ve tried to get home to move to a nursing home or move down here with us but he doesn’t want to. DP literally talks with him everyday, sorts his finances out etc, changed the house around to make it easier. When he’s there, he does shopping, housework, works on the house. DP has 2 brothers, one lives abroad and doesn’t really care and the other lives closer than we do and only visits FIL when he wants money. He’s what some people would say a class A Twat. DP was just there 2 weeks ago and as soon as he left FIL locked himself out of banking so DP went on Thursday with plans to come back Saturday, changed and said he was coming back tomorrow due to the Christmas traffic, he then just told me he’s coming back Monday b3cause he wants to wait for the neighbour and the cleaner to come back from thier trips just so they are close by in case because FIL feels weak.
I feel helpless, I’m at home with dc, DS16 is autistic so I can’t leave him alone with dd12, they just rub each other the wrong way and he can get aggressive, my mum would usually help out but she’s done her back in and can’t do anything and I’m having to juggle work,(retail at Christmas) helping her, sorting kids out and trying to be a shoulder to lean on for DP. We are trying to push for a carer but the doctors are taking thier sweet time organising it. DP has a job which means he can work from home every now and then which he does when he needs to visit FIL. FIL is a lovely guy, would do anything for you when he was able and I hate to see him this way. We literally keep an eye on him through ring cameras in the house.
DD asked DP earlier on the phone if he’s gonna make it back for Christmas. I could hear in his voice it killed him hearing her ask. He’s also taking her to see six next Saturday as it was her birthday present which she’s been dying to see. Im not sure how to help because going there right now is not an option and hoping DP defo comes back in time for Christmas. He said he’s not missing Christmas but I could hear in his voice how unsure he was.
just need to let it out, can’t load on DP as he’s got enough problems,
anyone else had a shit week