I got chatting to someone via a dating website, we have decent banter via whatsapp, with a very similar sense of humour....but every now and then he'd say something that set off alarm bells. In the cold light of day, its nothing much, the sort of thing where someone would say 'I was only joking.' I met him today and continued to feel quite alarmed at some level, despite him being good company and not bad to look at. Of course having had a diastrous marriage I may well just be projecting stuff...but I have had other first dates which didnt work out - but I certainly didnt have this anxiety feeling with them. Its so hard to know if its just me being anxious or if there is something Im picking up on. I know MN cant answer this really, just wanted to knwo whether anyone else has had similar but its passed once you'd got to know the person? My instinct is to run away...but is this too hasty??