How to you cope when life isn’t as expected

[Flowersonthetv]

Just that really, I’ve just had the news I’m having another miscarriage. This isn’t how I planned my life, I had it all layed out how I wanted it to go and this wasn’t part of the plan. I find this harder at times than the actual situations.

Any advice from people whose live isn’t as they planned, how do you cope with things out of our control?

So sorry to hear about your loss.

I'm still coming to terms about becoming a divorcee. I feel like I've had to confront my own judgements of divorcees head on.

There's so much in life that I can't control so I'm just focusing on the parts I do have control over. It's hard but I don't want to be bitter or resentful.

So sorry 😔

I had miscarriages before my child was born and it was so sad and bewildering.

It made me feel I had no control over my destiny.

In time, life became more balanced.

I found counselling helpful to sort out the anxiety.

I've got incurable cancer in my early 40s. It's taken time, self care, friends, love, lots and lots of conversations with other incurable ladies, and effecticely going through all the stages of grieving, but I'm now mostly at the acceptance stage. I have moments of fear, sadness, rage, everything else, but mostly I'm just living my life as best I can with it always there alongside me. I can honestly say I feel positive more often than not.

I hope that you too find peace.

With difficulty. I got divorced (my choice, he cheated) and it wasn’t at all in my life plan. Sadness first, a lot of anger, acceptance, etc. Time is a great healer. Did quite a lot of reading, spoke to friends. Took care of myself and didn’t feel bad about feeling bad. I’m sorry for your loss op.