Do your young/mid teens buy gifts for you / their siblings and do they use their own money?

[Untery]

Curious how other family’s do this.

I always used to from quite a young age used to write a list I think some of the presents were unusual! I had to buy for friends from my pocket money as well. Which was difficult but never had any money given to me. It’s good for children to learn to buy for others.

Ours are now 20, 19 and one teen, they all buy presents for dh and I and each other using pocket money (youngest) topped up with some money from us specifically for Christmas shopping and earnings (adults). The older 2 use their own money now as they don’t get pocket money and are both earning while studying.
when they were small we used to take them out to choose things for people.
They have always been really thoughtful.

They have to decide what is to be bought. But we don’t give pocket money (not sure why not…but neither of them has ever spent any money that they have been given).

My dd is 16 and has a part time job, and yes she does buy me a gift for Xmas, Mother's Day Andy birthday

My three are now 18,16, 14 and they've always bought gifts for us and each other for birthdays and Christmas out of their pocket money - sometimes they club together, sometimes they have their own plans. Our expectation is for small presents and we give them suggestions of things we'd like that aren't very spendy - often chocolate, snacks, nice tea and coffee. They get pretty modest amounts of pocket money (not the 18yo, she has a job) but can always earn more if they need it by doing jobs in the run up to Christmas shopping. If they had a really good idea but not the funds DH or I would probably help them make it happen. Also they all know that they are likely to get at least some cash from relatives etc over Christmas, so they are always better off after Xmas even having bought some presents.

I distinctly remember buying my brother the cassette tape of Earth Song by Michael Jackson for Christmas in 1995 with my own money. I would have been ten years old.

What’s the actual point of choosing something expensive and getting Dad to pay?
Not much thought went into that.

No because ours doesn’t really have her own money. She may on occasion say she wants to buy one of us or her brother something, and if we agree, we’ll just buy it and she’ll say thank you. We don’t really give her regular pocket money as nowhere to spend it. If she were going somewhere specific and would need some spending money, we’d give it to her. She does chores and things to earn money (to buy food for her pet, for example), but generally we do the buying.

Wishing you and your family a merry Christmas