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Work is miserable

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FirstWorldProblem3645 · 18/12/2024 05:05

Just here for a vent really.

I work with a few different teams. In theory I belong to a different unit, but in reality have little to do with it. It’s an odd role - centrally funded by the unit but mostly working with delivery teams. I’ve said, over and over, to my manager that I feel adrift, I don’t have a home at work, I fall between the cracks, don’t get included in general policy update emails, group meetings, that kind of thing. And this week every team have had their Christmas meal/party, and I’ve not been invited to any of them. And I know I could have stuck my neck out and asked, but it just hurts that no one thought of me long enough to invite me to a Christmas meal.

I’ve worked for some good employers and some shit ones. This one has a good reputation, and it is really flexible, reasonably paid, very good pension. But shit I’m miserable in it. I am searching for a new role, but I need to work part time and there seem to be very few part time roles in my sector/level at the moment.

That’s it. Happy mask back on for Christmas now.

OP posts:
whatisforteamum · 18/12/2024 06:09

I feel for you.Everyone wants to feel included.
Personally I don't like the Christmas meals.
I hope you find something more inclusive in 2025.

Lobsterteapot · 18/12/2024 06:14

It won’t be deliberate op, no one has the time these days to step back and think have we covered everyone, plus they may have made assumptions you we’re included in another departments meal/comms.

Find out who looks after the dist lists for each area and introduce yourself, get yourself added on. Be proactive.

Whoknowshere · 24/12/2024 00:46

We have a few roles like yours in my company and I can see two types of people, the ones who really don’t belong to any teams, are not felt as part of the teams hence don’t get invited and the ones who are part of each every team, they know everybody and they go to several drinks, meals etc. the difference is in the attitude of the person, on the extra effort they make to get included.
before leaving what it looks like a very good job, try and change your attitude, identify the “organisers”, who are usually one or two ladies (unfortunately!) go for coffee with them, befriend them and get them to know you would love to hang out with the team, help organising etc… if after 6 months of really putting some effort nothing happens, find another job

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