Pissed off the family by refusing to go on trip

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DH has suddenly decided we should go to France on Monday. Young teen DD was extremely excited by this.

I'm not. I'm really pissed off and now everyone is upset.

Several reasons;

I'm tired, really, really tired, can't find the energy to do anything.

I'm on the 2WW referral path and the hospital is phoning me on Friday, I will need further tests (though will not consent to doing them at Christmas).

I have a bad ankle and walk with crutches. Something has now happened to the knee on the same leg (definitely not strained, this leg is thinner than the other due to not being used much), the other knee is always a bit painful from over use, but this is swollen, painful above and below and keeps giving way.

I've got the Christmas grocery shop arriving on Monday. Sure they could go off to France this day, but if the shop has things missing (which happens every year), then it will mean a dash to pick up alternatives.

Plus I don't want to. I hate crowds, I can't imagine Carrefour in Calais is going to be quiet, it's bad enough in August.

It's also going to be dark early.

I'm a grump. All for spontaneity, but not two days before Christmas.

Can you stay home and let dh go solo??? I know I would.....

What a lovely father daughter trip!

tell your Dd, your DH (dickhead husband) would love to go with her and explore

"Ho ho! What an adventure you two will have!" <hand them some sandwiches and thermos>

You: puts feet up and has a cup of tea before doing the invisible labour of Christmas

Where is he planning to stay if this was a last minute suggestion?

He's suddenly decided you're all off to France two days before Christmas? That's quite a bold idea with literally no thoughts to the Christmas plans you've presumably already made.

I don't quite follow. Do you often travel to France for the day for a shop. Or is he suggesting you stay for Christmas. Do you own somewhere in France he wants to go to. None of it makes any sense to me.

Is it a day trip or overnight? Hopefully a day trip, he can take DD and you can have a lovely day home alone resting and slow prepping.

You can dh never does anymore Christmas preparations!

He can take the dc, and you can have a nice quiet day at home!

Wait, what? You need further tests but want to put them off? That's daft. Get them done as soon as they can fit you in. Christmas is just a day. Hope all is well.

Is this suggested as a day trip? If so, say you'll gracefully stay home to deal with the shopping delivery and possible phone calls, but they can go and enjoy themselves.

I would leave them to it. Why not?

I wouldn't care if an item wasn't delivered. We would get a meal anyway.

Just let them go without you and take the time to rest

I agree with staying home. Will DH still take DD?

Let them go alone, take the day to look after yourself and they can pick up any last minute items on Tuesday.

This is fascinating.. and a bit bonkers sounding. Is it a day trip? Do you live in Dover? It sounds ridiculous in your condition but you could wave the two of them off.

What a fun thing to be able to do - when you are fit, well and it's not Christmas week

Stop being miserable and go!

Why is it ‘miserable’ to not want to go on a poorly planned jaunt to France that would be physically painful and put massive pressure on the OP to finish her Christmas preparations in far less time than she thought she had?

Unless the DH is saying he’s done the prep for Christmas and arranged to compensate for the OP’s physical issues? Somehow I think not.