NC as I’m really struggling mentally.
Apologies if this is in the wrong section, I just didn’t know where to write this thread.
I’ve been with my husband a long time, married 14 years. We have beautiful DC together (older primary school age). We have a lovely house and a lovely life together. I would say we’ve had a happy marriage overall.
For the last year, my husband has been secretive with his phone - I never paid much heed to this, as I just didn’t think I had anything to worry about. I know there is a woman at his work (who I was semi friendly with - I don’t see her enough to be “proper” friends with her) but DH doesn’t mention her specifically, if you know what I mean - they work together but that’s it.
Anyway, over the last few months, DH has been kind of pulling away with affection. We always say “love you” at the end of our calls, and this still happens, but, I don’t know, I just feel like he’s not meaning it anymore. Something happened at work last week and he confessed to me the other night that he doesn’t feel we are as close as we were. I’ve tried to compensate by giving him space (he’s gone to stay with his parents over the weekend) and not putting pressure on him. I’ve given him cuddles, kisses on my messages, asking how his day is, I guess just giving him reassurance that I love him. The thing is, I don’t feel it’s reciprocated and it’s really making me worry that a) there’s someone else or b) he doesn’t love me anymore and he wants to separate. When he texts me back, it’s with a short response like “I’m good / all good” - not anything about how am I, how is my day going and no kisses on the messages.
I just don’t know what to do really. He is teaching a big birthday soon and I don’t know if that’s making him feel down, as in he’s facing a mid-life crisis, or if there is something more.
I don’t know what I want from this thread to be honest. I guess it’s just a place to vent. I just feel sick as my parent has been very unwell recently and I am bracing myself for their test results tomorrow, which are certainly going to indicate a very serious issue, so that is playing on my mind.
I just feel so, so sad.