FFS

[littledogdancing]

Dear A: you messaged me this morning at 5.30am to ask if I will take you to X as I have a free entry pass (you could get one but you refuse to pay £30, I get mine free through work). You then messaged to say you couldn't do the date/time you had originally stated in this mornings message. You then messaged to ask for a favour. You then messaged again to say you can now do the date/time you originally stated for X. You then messaged later to say should we do another date instead. You then messaged to ask for another favour.

You know I am working today.

I never wanted to go to X. You wore me down and I said you could have my ticket to go whenever you wanted.

GIVE ME A BLOODY BREAK

Maybe you should say this to X.

Do you know you've posted this on Mumsnet instead of sending it to them?

I wish I had the balls to send this to them.

this is a CF right ?

Of course OP knows what they posted. They're just venting in a safe space

It's a public internet forum, not a 'safe space'.

@SwanRivers I disagree. Are you A ?

Maybe tell A how you feel? Seems a bit pointless posting it on here.

New Years Resolution : Take a step back from A and start being firmer about saying no.

Yes, you got me.

So anyone who states the undeniable fact that Mumsnet is a public forum, will be known as 'A'?

Or did you think it was private?

It's anonymous which amounts to the same thing

Of course it doesn't.

There's enough specific information in the OP for that person to recognise themselves if they stumbled across it.

But the point being made (that clearly means I'm A) is that MN is not a 'safe space' and never has been.

It really doesn't. Especially with all the data breaches they have.

It's really not that deep. She didn't want to send it direct probably because she fears repercussions. So she wrote it on in here and got it off her chest. Anonymously. The end

Ignore the arseholes OP, and vent away on here. You have my sympathies.

I must be a total arsehole. I have no idea why people find it so difficult to say - no, that doesn’t work for me, I don’t want to, I’m not going to, you’re being a pest, leave me alone.

Clear boundaries make for stronger relationships.

This is your fault because by saying nothing you are allowing it to continue.

As the saying goes, if you’re a giver know your limits because the takers don’t have any.

grow the ball and do it.

I'd end up saying something a bit PA.

"Blimey - I was working today so came out to all these messages - you changed your mind quite a few times there didn't you?! As you know/I've been thinking about it and, I'm not really interested in going to X, but you're welcome to use my ticket. Just tell me which day you definitely want to go and I'll book it for you."