Teen time with dad (my ex)

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Hi. Thank you for reading and giving me some ideas.
My 13 year old usually goes every other weekend to her Dad. She has a couple of nights too every other week which don’t seem to be an issue. It’s the weekends that she struggles with. They go nowhere. Do nothing. She doesn’t want to go. Hasn’t wanted for a month or so now. We have made a list of the things she finds challenging at her Dad’s house and in theory they should be easily resolved. But, even if she speaks to him, he will agree and then do nothing to change.
What do I do?
We (Dad and I) have agreed to meet on Sunday with 13 year old child to discuss issues.
We were never married so this is very much us deciding what happens next.
She is meant to be with him this weekend but because she was so upset he suggested she stay with me tonight.

I think it's better for you to talk to him about the issues over the phone without your daughter there. I really don't see it going well - him being a man - having his ex and daughter telling him how they feel about what happens at his house.

It's totally understandable that it might be really dull or boring and your daughter wants to stay with you all the time. But realistically, you may never get a break and I'm being realistic in saying maybe that break/ time to yourself is important so you might miss it.

Just try appeal to any compassion that he has and very nicely say that she's struggling a bit with X y z and you really want to help if you can to support him and his relationship with her. I know its galling but it will be better for you if you can have some parenting support from the guy.

Just don't meet up all together to list off the issues at this point. He won't like it I'm sure of it.