I met my now DH when I was 19. He was 25. I’m now 27. So it’s been nearly 10 years. I don’t know why I’m analysing ? Maybe because we’ve hit a rough patch.
and the things that I’m finding difficult was stuff I ignored.
he was my first boyfriend and person I was intimate with. I had confidence issues throughout school and then I met him on a night out after being a bit tipsy and confident and I’d never really had anyone take interest in me. So I ran with it and I ignored some things that I look back and think that is never the type of man I wanted ?
he’s always been limited on physical affection. I’d like to cuddle or kiss and he’s always stopped it he doesn’t like lots of physical touch - I do.
Emotionally immature. Cannot express emotions and just expresses them through being moody.
libido. Mine is considerably lower now we have 2 young kids and our youngest still wakes in the night so I’m drained… but I was always higher and initiating sex. We even had a chat about me feeling insecure as he never initiated but he explained his sexual needs weren’t as high ( this isn’t a major dealbreaker as relationships aren’t just sex)
sometimes I’m happy with just mundane routine. He constantly wants a task or project to focus on and even berates me about not having hobbies.
Not really paternal. I did want the father of my kids to be an above and beyond dad. So this one makes me especially sad
This isn’t a LOOK AT ME IM A VICTIM POST. I’m a grown woman I’ve made this choice now I look on it and I’ve kept ignoring things. I don’t think they’re awful but I just look back to me the young girl who met him and I just wanted to be loved and with someone and have ‘someone’ and that’s what I’ve got but I don’t know. I just feel a bit glum