when your DH doesn't like your friend

[lalaland100]

how on earth do you manage that ?

DH is polite to my friend when he sees her, but thinks she is a total piss taker, He never tries to stop me from seeing her or her coming round to our house. When I say she is coming he quietly huffs under his breath.

I cannot got into the reasons he doesn't like her as its outing. All I will say he thinks she is a piss taker and when I got attacked (by another woman, unprovoked. I was hit and subsequently cut and bruised) my friend never said or did a thing even though she was there. DH cant get over that.

How would you feel if your husband had a friend who stood by and watched him get attacked without stepping? How would you feel if that friend constantly put your husband out by asking things of him? I suspect you wouldn't like that friend and wouldn't really want him around.
I'd never invite someone to our home that my husband wasn't comfortable around. Why can't you meet her away from the home? That way there's no awkwardness.

If DH behaved that way towards somebody I liked and cared about I’d tell him I hadn’t asked for his opinion and wasn’t interested in hearing it or putting up with his huffing. It’s not his place to make second hand huffs when you’ve decided for yourself that you want to continue the friendship. I wouldn’t expect anyone else to put themselves at risk of injury by trying to intervene in an assault, especially not another woman, so frankly if that’s his principal bugbear he’s being unreasonable.

Some people freeze in situations like that which can’t be helped.

He is polite when she’s around and that’s all you can ask for really.

Your DH doesnt need to like your friends, they're your friends not his. Just see her away from your DH, and the odd occasion where he might have to see her then he continues to be civil for your benefit. I don't really see what the issue is here at all. It doesn't need to be awkward if you keep them apart. And you say hes civil anyway so why would it be awkward. My DH sees my friends once or twice a year.

I mean she doesn't sound great does she?

I couldn't fathom just standing there while my friend took a pasting she doesn't deserve! Sounds like there is a bigger story to this. But if he just makes himself scarce I think that's fair. Can't expect him to be all fake friendly with her.

I agree with your husband, @lalaland100

She does sound like a piss taker. I don't mind occasionally doing a favour for someone, but not on a regular basis, and especially when it's going to put a crimp in my day.

The favour has to be convenient for me too.

I'm with your DH. I can't abide my DW's best friend but I put up with her for DW's sake but usually manage to be out when she comes around.

What's the problem? He is civil to your horrible friend and doesn't prevent you seeing her or complain. What more do you want? Is this a massive reverse?

@FelixtheAardvark are you able to elaborate why you don't like her