Can you ever fall back in love?

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When you’re with someone and feel like you’re falling out of love or slipping out of it?

2 young kids really took a strain on us and he’s just turned into a mean person and I don’t really like it. I try to see past it, ignore it and think he’ll stop but I find myself fantasising about being with a man who’ll be nice and more physically affectionate

he always been less on the physical side , and quite ‘antisocial’ (doctors suspect on spectrum but waiting list is long to get assessed etc so not confirmed) but it’s hard when my parents come around and he makes 0 conversation. I see my parents trying so hard and he’ll join in but if they didn’t try he’d just sit there and it’s awkward

its a build up of a few things and I don’t know can you
get it back?

ivealways thought relationships take effort and sometimes work after tough patches! (Kids have a small age gap and are young so quite a bit of stress but the most rewarding stress ever!)

Expereinces? Thoughts?

Have you spoken to him about it?

In my experience - no, but that’s just my experience. Every time I have fallen out of love with someone it has been because of something that I suddenly couldn’t unsee or see past if that makes sense?

I do think this goes back to an innate instinct that modern life almost tries to make us overlook - but when you get that gut feeling you do need to pay attention to it, because it’s there for a reason. I hope you’re ok. X

We have in bits and pieces. He said I’ve completely changed since having kids and I mean I have it’s quite life changing?

But where he gets annoyed is he thinks I fob him off. And he said I only care about the kids, not him too. So that’s his viewpoint

I think so. I’ve been with DH for 18 years and have had phases where I’ve loved him but not felt “in love”, especially during times of stress, young kids, work, family illness etc but have later found myself falling in love with him again.

The concerning bit about your post is that you call him mean. Not being kind towards you and your family is a problem. Have you spoken to him about it?

The concerning bit about your post is that you call him mean.

This. You want to be in love but if he's mean how lovable is he?