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I just need someone to give me a yes or no here please

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 08/12/2024 14:30

I have two weeks of my employment remaining. I handed my notice in a few weeks ago and I’m in my notice period. I work in education and I had an incident happen on Thursday I was teaching and a heavy object came in my direction forcefully and hit me. It’s claimed that this wasn’t supposed to happen and was meant to hit another student. Once the lesson ended I burst into tears and lots of pupils saw it while walking past. It’s embarrassing and I felt let down by the school response.

I spend the day talking to friends and discussing options. I really wanted to tell my students I was going to be leaving but I never had the chance and was leaving it until this Monday. Due to the nature of the incident. I’m not feeling up to returning and I and feeling really undecided about what I should do.

I considered taking time off this week and maybe returning next week to let them know I’m leaving. Or just taking the rest of the time off. Part of me feels to embarrassed to return (this has never happened to any other staff member) I also don’t want to hear the insincere apologises yet either.

Do I go back for the sake of telling the students I’m going (some of them I’ve had for 4 years) or is it just time to focus on myself and not go back in.

OP posts:
ByQuaintAzureWasp · 09/12/2024 08:40

Make sure this is recorded in tge accident book - email head and ask details to be included.

Get a doctors note which states injury at work/work related stress.

MeanderingGently · 09/12/2024 08:45

No.
Don't go back in.
You're leaving anyway, the place sounds a shitshow and no-one is backing you up. Someone else will tell the kids.
If this were me, I wouldn't be beating a path to the door of the GP surgery for a sick note either, I'd let them wait. What are the school going to do? Sack you? You're going....good chance to explain (again) what has happened and that you're unsatisfied with the school's response etc., etc.

Not ideal that you cried but don't beat yourself up, it's quite understandable and we all do. Tell yourself in 10 years' time no-one will remember and you'll look back, shake your head and get on with life. Honestly, the stress isn't worth it, life's too short.

ThePerkyCoralPoet · 09/12/2024 08:58

MeanderingGently · 09/12/2024 08:45

No.
Don't go back in.
You're leaving anyway, the place sounds a shitshow and no-one is backing you up. Someone else will tell the kids.
If this were me, I wouldn't be beating a path to the door of the GP surgery for a sick note either, I'd let them wait. What are the school going to do? Sack you? You're going....good chance to explain (again) what has happened and that you're unsatisfied with the school's response etc., etc.

Not ideal that you cried but don't beat yourself up, it's quite understandable and we all do. Tell yourself in 10 years' time no-one will remember and you'll look back, shake your head and get on with life. Honestly, the stress isn't worth it, life's too short.

I decided I’m not returning. May I ask why you would not organise a doctors note though? Would you self cert then do the doctors note and if so. Why?

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stayathomer · 09/12/2024 08:59

I’d say go in for a goodbye and then out because you sound like you need a break x

CyranoDeBergerQuack · 09/12/2024 08:59

You've already posted about this haven't you? Except more detail here.
What response do you actually want from here, because it seems you aren't sure.
Tbh, don't go back, it's too much drama

avaritablevampire · 09/12/2024 11:08

Op can post about the incident as many times as she likes. Sometimes talking about the same incident over and over or writing things down over and over can help with shock/ stress / over coming adversity. It maybe OP doesn't have family, or doesn't want to discuss with family, and that's cool, mumsnet can be a really good sounding board.
Sometimes, when you are feeling vulnerable or out of sorts, making decisions can be incredibly hard, as we can't see the wood for the trees, sometimes we need 'permission' from others to reinforce our belief that it's okay to take time off for our mental wellbeing.
Op sounds like a really dedicated teacher, whose been shocked by the latest classroom antics, had SLT backed her up, reassured her that it wasn't acceptable and given her confidence to return to the classroom, she'd almost certainly not be in the prevaricating state she's in now. Having good management is essential, particularly in high stress jobs.
I don't know why anyone would want to be a teacher. More importantly shitty behaviour impacts the whole class, and it's grossly unfair on the other students, who want to learn. Ds was in a crappy year group at primary (I really felt for the teachers, it got to the point the learning was on a back foot, due to constant disruption, ds got so pissed, in the end I took him out and home educated). He's now in secondary school, but was incandescent last week that the chemistry practical got called off and no more practicals will be done by the kids till next term due to poor behaviour impacting safety. I don't see why a few badly behaved kids get to ruin education for the kids that want to learn.
I hope you've taken this week off OP. I hope you can find some balance, and move forward. And I hope your new job goes really well.

MidLifeWoman · 13/12/2024 18:27

I have just caught up with this thread and I am appalled at some of the posts here. I hope you are ok, @ThePerkyCoralPoet

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