Anyone else feel like they’re just ruled by their hormones?

[Lufannian]

This really.

I’ve always struggled a bit with tearfulness/irritability around my period. It has been worse since I had my children.

But the last few months I’m finding this has shifted to ovulation as well. It’s been terrible. I go from fairly laid back to a paranoid, anxious mess. Convinced my husband has stopped loving me. Absolutely convinced he’s leaving me. No reason, he’s done absolutely nothing wrong. But it’s so, so real to me for that few days. Had a blazing row with him about it. Woke up today and the paranoid feeling has gone. I feel totally normal. And I feel utterly ridiculous.

Does anyone else feel like this? He’s more understanding than I would be if I were him. But I feel awful. Is this normal?!

Gosh that sounds stressful. All that happens to me is a go from no real interest in sex to wanting to jump the bones of anyone remotely good looking. Packed in to London public transport at rush hour with all the men in suits the other week got me like being a teenage girl at a boybond concert.

Have to act like a nun with a cross giving it 'get behind me Satan!'

Hormones are weird things.
I hear the perimenopause can make grumpy and emotional af. Could it be that?

It's common but that doesn't mean you need to just accept it as normal

And there is help for it

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pre-menstrual-syndrome/

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/premenstrual-dysphoric-disorder-pmdd/what-is-pmdd/

I used to be obsessed with sec during ovulation. I didn’t mind that so much… But this has been a recent change and I don’t understand why or where it’s come from. Thank you for the link, I shall have a read.

Perimenopause - I have just turned 40. So I guess maybe?

me too, never really too affected by PMS but since about the last 2 years noticed Im getting shorter and shorter tempered, getting angry and flaring up at work, professional role, not good! Also skin is awful with loads of spots on chin last 3 oht of 4 weeks per month, Im 38. Went to GP last month and started on the pill for a trial, which feels ridiculous because DH had a vasectomy to spare me having to take contraceptive hormones but here we are.

yeah I can’t take the pill because it turns me into an actual crazy person. Was on it for a few months about two years ago and it was terrible I was a total basket case who cried at the drop of a hat

I want to bury my DH under the patio for 3 days every month, but it's the energy fluctuations that thow me. A couple of weeks often involuntarily napping after dinner and generally being totally exhausted, then it's like someone's loosened the tap to my energy tank and I'm brighter and full of energy. So weird.