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Seeking Support and Advice for Upcoming Trial

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TattyPhoenix · 06/12/2024 17:41

Hi everyone,

I've name changed for obvious reasons.

I’m reaching out because I’m feeling overwhelmed and could really use some support. I’m currently pursuing a civil case against the school where a teacher sexually abused me. I’ve recently learned that the case is going to trial next year, and the school’s main witness is the abuser, who has denied the allegations.

The case now hinges on whether the judge believes me or him. I originally pursued vicarious liability so I wouldn’t have to involve him directly, but unfortunately, that’s not how things have worked out.

I feel so sick at the thought of facing this in court, and I’m really struggling with anxiety and sleepless nights. I know my legal team will help me prepare closer to the time, but right now, I’m finding it hard to cope with the waiting and the unknowns.

I’m not entirely sure what I’m asking for—maybe advice on how to mentally and emotionally prepare, or just words of encouragement from anyone who has faced something similar.

Thank you so much for reading this and for any advice or support you can offer.

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Collaborate · 06/12/2024 17:44

You should ask for special measures in court. Separate waiting area, and screens in court so that you don't have to see him.

Good luck, but it was inevitable that he was going to have to give evidence if the school is contesting the claim.

TattyPhoenix · 06/12/2024 18:05

@Collaborate thanks. To be honest I was hoping it would settle before court.

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GCITC · 06/12/2024 18:35

I believe ISVAs can support you through civil cases as well as criminal ones.

Maybe see if there are any local sexual violence charities that can help you.

TattyPhoenix · 06/12/2024 18:43

@GCITC thank you so much, there is a centre quite close to me, I will see if they can help

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TattyPhoenix · 08/12/2024 09:39

A hopeful bump to see if anyone else has been in this position

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