My ds has started saying very rude things

[GoldieTheDog]

I'm concerned.

My ds who is 8, has started to say things that are very rude. Yesterday for example, he said knock knock, I said who's there? And his reply was 'your ass!'
This isn't the first time and he's been saying a lot of rude things lately. Lots of wear words too.

I told him off and asked him where he is hearing such words. His reply was to blame his sibling. I'm quite sure that's a lie as his (younger) sibling has never said anything along these lines and looked genuinely shocked when he blamed them.

I'm thinking it's from school and wondering if I need to talk to the teacher about it.
Ds does watch YouTube but only on the Tv and we can all hear and see what is on. Neither me or dp has said these things in front of dc and he doesn't stay with other family at all. The only time he's away from us is when he's at school.

Has anyone else here experienced this? Did you find out where they were hearing these inappropriate things?

Why i want to talk to the teacher is because some of the things he's saying is quite concerning. I know the knock knock joke isn't the most shocking. Like I mentioned, ds has said much worse things, and I'm concerned incase another child is seeing/ hearing things they shouldn't.

I thought If I spoke to the teacher maybe they could listen at break time and see if anything is being talked about.

The ass joke made me laugh 😂.

The big wide world is going to expose your DC to much worse. Shocker! You will be having many more conversations.

He's 8, theyll be effing and jeffing in the playground.

Don't speak to the teacher. I'm sure language is monitored in class.

If you're finding the word ass shocking, you're in for a rough ride as he gets older.

It's a word. In a joke. Stop placing so much importance on it. Just ignore it and he will realise he's not getting a reaction and won't use it again.

My boys are 10, 12 and 13. Our policy is

*I know you probably swear, but I'd rather not hear it. If you do swear, not at school, not in public and not in front of children or older people. If you say it in quiet conversation with your friends and I don't hear it, it won't hurt me.

Weirdly enough both me and dad swear like troopers and other than my eldest saying 'I'm fucking sick of it' when his old school allows started again, I've never heard them swear.

Why can't you repeat the "much worse" things he's said?
It does feel like a bit of an overreaction to an 8yo boy saying a joke with the word 'ass' in it.

You sound a bit dramatic to be honest and without knowing what the 'much worse' things he's said it's hard to make a determination as to what your reaction should be. He's 8 so I'm presuming removal of privileges as a consequence for repeating bad language would be appropriate. I wouldn't get too worked up about him saying ass/arse though.

You could have a word with his teacher and tell them he's been using some bad language at home which he's been pulled up on. Let the teacher know this is not coming from home as you don't swear in the home so it must be picked up from classmates?