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6 yo behaviour, what is happening?

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Mumtoacheekyboy · 03/12/2024 19:41

DS just turned 6 last month. He does a thing that, whilst not harmful, is quite irritating and a bit embarrassing honestly.

I’ve picked him up from afterschool care today and he was playing outdoors with some other children, not really together but doing their own thing. When I came, he looked at me and went back to playing (the children were on a climbing structure). The group leader walked over and told him his mummy was here and it was time to go. He didn’t want to come down so basically ignored her, at which point she sort of coerced him to get his bag and then he sort of acts cheeky (flopping around, swinging his bag around). There is also a turnstile at the gate and he kept swinging round despite me and the teacher asking him to stop. He was giggly and would fall to the ground on purpose, and kept going round the turnstile, or flopping over it. I asked him repeatedly to stop but it’s like he’s a bit too wound up. But Finally I got him to go. The teacher said he’d been playing nicely until I came.

This is often the case, they say he’s playing well and then I show up and he gets a bit wild. What is happening here? How do I manage this? It’s a bit embarrassing that he doesn’t respond to me or the teachers. And sometimes I just want to bloody go home! I try getting on his level and looking him in the eye but he just acts ver silly.

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Kaleidoscopic101 · 04/12/2024 09:28

This is normal behaviour imo. It's not any reflection on your ability to control him and the teachers and other parents will know that so don't worry about what others are thinking, they're probably mostly just glad it's you and not them! It's likely a mix of emotions he doesn't know where to put. He's probably worked hard to be 'good' and 'play nicely' all day, see's you it's exciting, he's tired but it's home time. You're his safety net and he can drop all his inhibitions and relax but he's also excited. Home world and school world collides and he wants everyone's attention in that moment. It's the equivalent of being high or drunk so going to be hard for him to just snap out of it. I also think the turnstile sorts of thing become a bit of a habit like 'the thing I do' at such and such time of day...and it can be a case of gently shifting that thing to something else somehow! I don't have any answers but I find a count down works well I'm sure you've tried all the things...but don't let it be an embarrassment or any reflection on you, it's just normal try to take it as a compliment!

ssd · 04/12/2024 09:30

Totally Totally normal

Mumtoacheekyboy · 04/12/2024 19:45

Thank you, I've been wondering about it because it doesn't happen if DH picks him up, he only does it with me. I didn't know if perhaps he's feeling upset with me or what. I feel like i"m the only parent who experiences this and all of the other children just say "Hi mummy!" and run over to hug them. And mine is the wildling...

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