Domestic violence

[Thegatekeeper24]

I'm so Angry, worried, pissed off. Sorry if I don't make sense. Just my head is rushing.

Dd ex went to prison for domestic violence. Dd was moved. She's been in the property around 3 years. Someone told dd ex where dd lives . This was in August. There is a warrant out for his arrest due to breaking restraining order and other things.

Dds ex can not know where she is. Dd reached out to housing officer. And her DV advocate. Housing officer has Been gate keeping , lying not taking anything seriously. Not doing the things she should have been doing. The housing officer kept telling dd there,was going to be an emergency housing panel meeting but was lying to her and was not filling in the paper work twice the housing officer has ignored MARAC . Also ignoring emails not returunf calls etc .

Now tonight dd has told me that a car with dark windows was slowing down then stopped and (seened) to be watching dd said it may be nothing but it worried her.

The risk has now reached a level of domestic homicide. Had the housing officer done what she was meant to it would not have got to this level.

she should report this to the police
and also contact her IDVA
is there a marker on her property? if not ask for one

Yes that's all done .thank you .

then I wish her luck
do the neighbours know the situation, would they call the police at the first sign?
I assume no children as you haven't mentioned any

There are children. The ex is not the father to them though. Yes the neighbours would ring . Get address also has a marker. Windows have alarms. Reinforced door /locks

that's good, but if she still doesn't feel safe then talk to the IDVA tomorrow

They are on to it. Its the fact that the housing officer has totally messed up . Dd has to be moved . And the house g off6has bed. Ignoring that fact

incredibly frustrating I know

I probably sound a bit victim blaming but I don't mean to . Slightly of topic to.

There is a woman in dd block on the ground floor . The womans plays really loud music and the base is bad . Even though dd is a few floors above her it shakes her flat and the music wakes her and her kids . It effects the whole block abd its always late at night and early hours. Dd knocked on her door to complain during the summer. Because she did not want to grass . The woman kicked of screaming shouting being aggressive.

A few weeks after that the woman was banging on dd door shouting she will have her music on when she wants and saying nasty crap I cant remember what.

So about 4.30 this morning the same woman comes to dd door . Banging really loud dd answers it . She starts screaming at dd calling her names nasty words aggressive. Tried oudhing her way in. Going on that dd cat is meowing and its doing her head in . Dd cats are not even outside. The woman shouting has woken dd ds up and he's crying because he's scared . In the end the woman gave up. Dd called the police.. police said they are going to speak to the woman... no idea wgay became of that .

What I don't understand is why did dd answer the door at 4.30 in the morning. She has done similar before. It was only yesterday she was telling me the level of risk from her ex is domestic violence homicide. Yet she answers the door at silly times. Even without that risk most people don't answer their door... I didn’t lecture dd or anything but I did say why did you answer the door at that time. She just says I wasn't thinking... I know it's not her fault. But she needs to be more awear