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Practical advice in leaving

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Janeyboo198 · 02/12/2024 12:50

Hi,
This is random but I’m looking for practical advice and ideas. I’ve needed to leave my relationship for some time but I work full time from home in a stressful job and I’m finding it exhausing with living in a hostile environment constantly too and no one to talk to I can’t make sense of what I should do.

Ive been going through a lot of emotional and sometimes physical abuse (if u call being pushed and squared upto and things thrown at me physical) and have felt trapped for some time, I just feel really stressed about money, I can afford to move out and pay rent on my own but it’s the deposit side I can’t afford, I can’t seem to save that amount up but I don’t want to stay much longer.

He bought a car for me 4 years ago as my credit wasn’t great, I put a 2k deposit down and have paid another 7k off so I’ve paid for it now but despite me asking he’s never signed the car over to me and I need the car for school runs etc.

My sofa that I’m still paying on credit is on the second floor and the window was removed to get this in, I don’t want to leave without it. Does anyone know if removals would do this if I requested it? I have a small time frame to move out in. Saturday when he’s at work til 1, the rest of the time he’s here or can turn up home at any time. I wish I could leave without him being aware but I need to take all the furniture I’ve paid for, I can’t afford to start over without. Just feel really stuck.

I can’t get through to women’s Aid on live chat and can’t see a phone number. I’ve emailed but it can take up to 5 days.

If anyone can give advice I’d really appreciate this, thanks. X

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MMOC · 02/12/2024 18:28

Sofas can be replaced, finances can be rebuilt back to normal. You can not, nor can your children.
Is working from the office an option. It will get you out of the house and give you a chance to make calls.
Tell your boss about the abuse at home, if you can. Tell your GP and if you are brave enough tell Child Services and police.
I lost everything when I left, literally, but what I gained was peace and knowledge that my children were safe.
You can’t put a price on your children’s safety and happiness.

Janeyboo198 · 06/12/2024 18:36

Thank you for the reply. The office at the other end of the country so unfortunately not. You’re right, these things can be replaced, I think because I’ve always lived hand to mouth until the last few years, I’ve finally managed to have a few nice things I’ve built for myself so its hard to start from nothing again, but my kids matter more than that. X

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