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Could anyone share what their ASD girls were like at age 3/4?

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PuddingOwl · 01/12/2024 19:06

My DD is 3 years 3 months and I have a suspicion she may be ND, and have for a while. A lot of the standard flags like delayed speech, repetition and sensory issues don't fit her but I have read that ASD can present differently in girls.

Would anyone whose had a DD diagnosed (even at an older age) be able to share what they were like at pre school age and what made you pursue a diagnosis?

Thanks

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Superhansrantowindsor · 02/12/2024 06:27

Very interested to see late walking mentioned so many times. DD was also a very late walker. I’ve never connected it to her autism before.

SirMink · 02/12/2024 06:35

Thank you @Thepossibility . I hope she’s doing better now.

Hermanfromguesswho · 02/12/2024 06:49

My DD was diagnosed age 8. When she was younger the biggest signs looking back were very very little sleep. She was relentlessly cheerful but just didn’t need sleep. She was very particular about her clothes. And played alongside others rather than with them mostly

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Stonefromthehenge · 01/12/2024 20:43

My DD didn't have any of the traits you mention. She was however a very late walker, lacking confidence and motivation to do anything physical. She just didn't move. She was a dreamy, very placid child. She has an aura of peace about her - others would comment on it.

She was very bright, engaging deeply with whatever she was doing. Very quick with numbers, good language skills. At three she acquired the ability to read short words with zero input from me. She could do maths before she could run. So, the twice exceptional thing but not knowing that, to us it was just her normal. I suppose the biggest thing is the placidness - no jealousy or the usual argy bargy with siblings and they quite naturally responded by sharing and so on which is lovely. The challenge now she's older is preparing her for the real world.

It's so interesting you mention the placidness. My DD has never had a second of jealousy about her younger siblings either. She wasn't yet two when her brother arrived and she was completely fine with him and sharing the attention.

AndCallMeNancy · 02/12/2024 07:25

snoopysnoooper · 01/12/2024 23:27

@AndCallMeNancy your 10yo dd sounds just like my 10yo dd

@snoopysnoooper just read your post and yes, lots of similarities! My DD would spend hours from age 2 setting up her Sylvanians in their houses but it took me ages to realise she never actually played with the figures themselves, it was all about setting up scenes. Very interesting, subtle differences with girls.

daffodilandtulip · 02/12/2024 07:28

DD wasn't diagnosed until she left school. Her life would have been so much better had we have realised - I'll always feel like I failed her for this.

At 2/3 she was reading, reciting the alphabet, doing large jigsaws. She never had a comfort toy, always pushed off hugs, was super independent. No empathy or attachment - it felt like she couldn't care less if we existed. Never made many friends.

Obsessed with rules and routines. Like having to fetch milk with her in her pjs, because breakfast came before getting dressed. In fact breakfast came before everything, including Christmas Day 😂. This was actually the thing that started her diagnosis - she went to college where it wasn’t a 9-3 timetable and could not cope.

She's always been happy, calm, enjoyed trying new foods, enjoyed millions of activities.

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