Stick at 2 or go for 3?

[Nosleepforthismum]

Two lovely kids, DS3 and DD1. A few months ago it was really hard and I was certain we were done at 2. Things are much better now and I’m horrified to be getting broody over babies again. Obviously there are loads of reasons not to: finances, quality time with each child, finances, more sleepless nights, finances, never being invited anywhere ever again…

I’m also a bit older now and my two pregnancies were complicated and there’s a worry of rolling that dice the third time and expecting everything to be okay. DH comes from a big family and is on board with either option which is not fucking helpful. So I’ve come here to ask for opinions and anecdotes as to why it’s been amazing either having just 2 or having 3 or more.

My friends third turned out to be third and forth. Could you cope with that?

Twins happened to a friend of mine for her third.

I’m also a bit older now and my two pregnancies were complicated

I'd say no.

We hear this song regularly here - as a mother of 3 with a gap after the second,
it wasn’t so bad as I had girl boy girl which is better than having one of the
same sex as the second child.
Pragmatically, two is easier, not just financially, but, we have two hands to hold
2 childs hand, two of you can take a child each, friends family neighbours will
possibly look after two children, but baulk at 3, you have one of each, complicated
births, always the chance you are pushing your luck.
Returning to a career or the workplace becomes more difficult, childcare becomes expensive.
However when the broodiness kicks in all practical thoughts dissolve when the urge is strong.

We were done with two at 30yrs. When I was late 30’s/early 40’s i had a spate of broodiness but in hind sight, it was a last hurrah of hormones and glad we stuck at two. Teenagers are very very expensive!