I have an 11 year old girl who since half term her behavior at school has changed for the worse and especially after meeting two other girls but it’s their fault . For context she has a sensory issues diagnosis but traits of adhd. I ruled autism out has she has many friends and is very social. She is in report, skippeda lesson, disruptive behavior. They’ve taken her to the sensory room, reflection room but other than my daughter telling me the school haven’t told what they do they just email and called me when she missed a lesson. They’ve given her sensory toys as well as my daughter showed me. Previous to this all her behavior was at home, meltdowns, screaming, really dislikes being told what to do that the OT we had said to give her choices, really had trouble with clothes , keeping her room clean, far more untidy than is the norm for kids, as I tidy and clean and she screams and throws everything on the floor again! but at primary she never talked back to teachers or behaved this badly. It’s not even a full term in and she is 11 soon to be 12 and it’s all going down hill at school. The school haven’t told me but my daughter said if she continues like this she will excluded but they never said this to me in email or by phone so wondering whether I should believe her on this one. They can’t just exclude a child without a very good reason right?
I don’t know what to do? I can’t afford private therapy or diagnosis and really need some advice from any other parent who has struggled with their child’s behavior getting worse as they enter the teen years. Thank you