Penalised for not showing up to a meeting

[eRobin]

I asked for a meeting about reasonable adjustments but they had no record of it from the first time I asked because it wasn’t in writing. Then when I did ask for it in writing they still didn’t arrange a meeting with the relevant department but expected me to turn up to a meeting with them to speak about it, as if they had any power to change or implement anything.
then I was penalised for missing that meeting due a storm in my area.
they were 2 hours away and they were unaffected.
One their reasons for penalising me was that it was odd that there wasn’t one in the morning but there was at the time of my meeting, which implied I had made it up.
I was able to prove there was a storm and had the penalisation lifted by their manager.
They themselves in the past have told me about how have given others no penalisation for not turning up to meetings or getting there and deciding they don’t have the energy for it or whatever. Their manager also said they were never aware I had asked for a meeting about reasonable adjustments and have given me one for Monday. I am disabled, make a big effort to be prepared for everything and I go to meetings even if I don’t feel like it and only don’t go if I can’t due to a storm etc or in unbearable pain and can’t function at all. So far I have missed 2 meetings one of which was due to the storm.
I’m not sure I trust them anymore and I’m not sure what to do from here.

I thought they had and OP is simply unhappy at the whole thing.

Instead of wondering and worrying, get on top of this.

Ensure your work is good. Get testimonials, thanks, facts and figures, evidence.

You want reasonable adjustments because of your disability.

They have a duty to provide.

If they refuse to accommodate you or act unreasonably again, or even try to oust you because of it, take legal advice.

And ensure you have copies of all the info independent from work. Email it home, put on a stick if system allows, print it out. Because if all your evidence is on your work laptop and the worst happens - you'll have nothing to show and no evidence for your case.

@Onthesideofthespiders
Not all landlines in rural Scotland work if the power goes out. By 2027 analogue lines won't exist anymore, you must know the PSTN is bring retired and phone lines will need an Internet connection.

Last power cut we had here in rural Scotland most phone lines didn't work whether or not you had a corded analogue phone to plug into the master socket or not. The lines themselves needed the Internet connection and BBU only power routers for about an hour. Power went out at 3:47am and was out til 14:00. Supermarkets had to throw out stock because their IoT temperature controls also didn't work.

You live in rural Scotland and don’t have a landline? I don’t know anyone in my little town who got rid of their landlines, for this exact reason. We all have them. And it’s a very very small “town” so yes, we all know each other and we all check in on each other during storms… using our landlines.
Are you knew to rural living? Get a landline.

That will apply once the roll out hits more than a couple of places. It doesn’t affect the OP not telling her employer she wasn’t coming in.

OP you need to not focus on whether others have had warnings for similar things. Some colleagues may have earned a level of flexibility you haven't earned, by performing highly at work for years.

You need to focus only on your own actions - i'm guessing the reasonable adjustment you want is to be allowed to wfh more or even 100%, but incidents like this will only demonstrate to your employer why they cant allow it - if bad weather is going to make you so uncontactable you couldnt make one phone call to your boss, how can you wfh?
It sounds like you live a long way from work - has that always been the case?
Bear in mind your employer does not have to agree to the adjustments they want if they are going to impact on your ability to work productively for them.