Do you still tuck in your 11/12 year olds?

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Bedtime is a huge performance in our house still,partly because of the autisitc 9yo but also because the 11/12 yos seem to need a lot of chivvying.

Do you still do this, or do you send them up and leave them to it?

My 14 yr old still loves it. And so do I. One day she won't be bothered and I will miss it. Gets herself to bed and enjoys a hug and a fleece blanket spread over her!!

Yes.

Yes. It’s great that he can take himself and get ready but he appreciates us tucking him in.

No. My eldest is 10 and she takes herself to bed.

Most nights I stop by DS12 room to have a little chat, discuss the day, the next day and anything he might want to talk about. I love the little night time chats.

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Yes my youngest DS insists on it, he is 11. It's lovely tbh.

Mine are 16 and almost 20 but when they are still here I go in to their rooms when I go up to bed and say goodnight. The older on is away at uni but when shes here I say good night, in fact I often WA it to her now.

Yes. We still read ours a bedtime story most nights. Some nights he will stay up a bit later then come down for a kiss but most nights we’ll go into his room, tuck him in (not physically - he’s in a cabin bed and I can’t reach but kiss, cuddle, night night etc) and say goodnight

I would like to but the 11 yo says no thank you.

Yes. Son not daughter. She likes her space. He likes me in with him to stroke his head. I’d love to mention it in front of his mates 😉 When we’re in the local village he walks ahead of me in case any of his friends realise he has a mother. If only they knew what a big softy he still is. Will miss it next year as think my time wil be up then.

Ha! Some nights my youngest (15 in two weeks) tucks ME in!

I tuck in my 14 yo DD and she would be super upset if I didn't it's our thing, along with gratitude etc
I tuck in my DD 2 when she's home .... she 28 and a doctor x

Oh yes, 13yo. Well-organised blankets, duvet on top, sometimes he asked to be tucked in tight like a mummy! We have some of our best conversations at that time, he feels safe, warm and loved.
The dog will give him a goodnight sniff, too.

We still do. DS is nearly 12 and we always spend some quiet time together before he goes to bed. We read books, sometimes chat for a bit but mostly just spend an uninterrupted half an hour together, usually in my and DP’s bed. By MN standards it’s intrusive and odd, as I’ve gathered from similar threads. It works for us, DS trots off to his bed afterwards and reads for a bit, we tuck him in. I come from a cold, emotionally distant family, I don’t remember being tucked in or cuddled as a child and this is not what I want for DS.

Yes. My Ds aged 13 still had a bedtime story! 🙈😂 He would absolutely die if his friends ever found out but we just read a section of whatever book he’s reading together (at the moment it’s Hunger Games!) and then I give him a hug and tuck him in. I never make him feel bad if he has the odd occasion he’s too tired or whatever and eventually I know he’ll get tired of it and that’s fine, but it’s quite sweet really. He still cuddles his jellycats too!

Tucking in has always been a thing for my DD, but it has evolved as she has got older. It used to be story time and saying goodnight. Then when she was a bit older, just tucking in. Then just saying goodnight at her door. Now she is 14 and stays up later than me. So now she tucks me in, which involves her giving me a goodnight kiss when I am already in bed! It's lovely 😍

Yes, DD is a young 12yr old, she likes me to brush her hair and have a little chat whilst we tidy her room up and turn her mattress warmer off, get her water bottle refreshed, it's one of the best bits of my day tbh.

That's just lovely.

Oh god yes. My eldest is 10. She gets a hug and kiss at bedtime, then I call up 30 mins after to tell her it's time to stop reading, goodnight I love you.

Mine are grown up now, but at that age I used to read to them downstairs in their pyjamas, kiss them good night and then DH would tuck them into bed. I miss those days ❤️

My dd is autistic but what a lot of people would call 'high functioning.' Not a term I particularly like but it best describes her to people who don't know her.

She's almost 11 and I still do bedtime. We go up and watch a 20 minute show on her tv then I tuck her in and pat her until she's asleep. She has recently been saying she wants to try and sleep on her own but every time we try she struggles. It's part of her routine so I'm not pushing it.

I don't think this is usual for a child her age though!!

Yes for 13 year old, no to 17 yo as he goes to bed after us.